God's Anger Management Clinic

I was listening to the television last night about a man sharing how he was angry that this drunk driver killed his mother and his 14-year old nephew. He said his dad was in the hospital between life and death and his dad told him that he needed to forgive the drunk driver. He said that he did not know how his dad could do that when he was barely alive. He was also angry at God for allowing it to happen. He is a Christian.

I believe forgiveness is something that we receive through the grace of God. It's an act of the will that we say, "God I forgive so and so." It's definitely not a feeling.

The biggest thing I have a problem is in situations when my daughter told me that two men came through her cashier line on Valentine's Day saying they were going to buy their wife diet pills. If I was working at Meijers, I would not have received any customer service awards that day. I hate disrespect for a marriage partner -- either hearing that from the wife or husband. It's been the #1 killer of my wanting a relationship with certain men I have met. Same with when a man tells me he has anger issues towards his ex-spouse.

It's because I had a sweetheart and then these jerks are still walking around on the planet. So basically I have to say, "God I'm annoyed at that person or I'm annoyed at you for allowing this to happen to my husband that he died early." It really is the only way I can deal with the problem. For me to harbor resentment, unforgiveness, or bitterness against anyone or against God only hurts me (us) in the long run.

It helps me to look at how David had anger problems. He got upset when Nabal was being selfish and would not share his goods when he was in the wilderness running from Saul. He was on his horse and he had his men together like a posse, and he was going to wipe out Nabal's whole household.

When Nabal's wife Abigail got wind of it from their servant, she went against her husband's wishes and brought food and things (a peace offering) to David to intercede for her husband and household. She told David that he should not take matters into his own hands. Her rebuke got David to listen. That God is able to take care of the problem person.

It says the wrath of man works not the righteousness of God.

for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. James 1:20

One way I handle my anger besides telling God I am angry is to pray and bless men and women who are selfish and have disrespect issues towards marriage and their partners. That is my peace offering (intercession) before God. It says blessed are the peacemakers.

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. Matthew 5:9

For a while, I got angry at the devil, because he is the thief in life and when you have been robbed, it’s like when someone breaks in your house, you feel vulnerable, but then I realize that is God’s battle to as far as in the warfare it tells me in Ephesians 6:11 to stand.  Stand against the wiles of the devil.  The battle is God’s the victory is mine.