Be the Kind of Wife Who Pursues Her Husband Passionately

Should women chase men? I did not chase my husband to marry me, but I was the one who pursued him in marriage. What our Lord did for us is referred to as the "passion of Christ." God pursues us and we pursue him. "Draw near to God and he will draw near to you." James 4:8. God and I are in a union of love. Like my husband was in a union together.

I am united with Christ. (But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. 1 Cor. 6:17)

Atheists that accuse God of being an egomaniac---I wonder if those men ever had a woman that admired them? I know Christians don’t do a very good job of presenting the gospel at times. It seems to be presented as a rule book, when actually we are under one law and that is the law of love. If we are going to follow a bunch of rules that is like setting your wife down and saying, “Honey let me tell you the rules of the bedroom.” No, we want to make passionate love to our wife/husband because we love them.

It’s a woman who adores her husband. I’m not saying that I necessary worshipped the ground my husband walked on since he was just a man, but like the Shulamite woman in the Bible, I was the one that kept the fire burning in our marriage. I was the one that reached for his hand in public, that snuggled and cuddled next to him in bed at night, and got him to put his arm around me since he was not an affectionate man.

My beloved is radiant and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand. His head is purest gold; his hair is wavy and black as a raven. His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh. His arms are rods of gold set with topaz. His body is like polished ivory decorated with lapis lazuli. His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem. Song of Solomon 5:10-16

Especially those of us who weathered the storms of life over time. Passionate love was at an all time high in my life going on 15 years of marriage. The best definition of love is 1 Cor. 13 and it says that “love seeks not its own way.” I prayed and sought ways to please my husband.

I was listening to Christian television and this man was talking about what is a man? Some would say a man is defined by doing what "he wants when he wants to do it." I could easily put my name in the man part, because of my physical drives in life. "Do what I want when I want to do it." We seem to leave off the fruit of the spirit and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23

Paul said he buffeted his body (brought his passions under control) so that when he preached to others he would not be a castaway.

But [like a boxer] I buffet my body [handle it roughly, discipline it by hardships] and subdue it, for fear that after proclaiming to others the Gospel and things pertaining to it, I myself should become unfit [not stand the test, be unapproved and rejected as a counterfeit]. 1 Cor. 9;27

I like what I heard a pastor said that he does not fantasize about other women than his wife, because she has his whole heart. I take that to mean that if God has my whole heart than I won’t fantasize in my mind about men even as a single woman. That became a whole lot easier in my life when God asked me to give him the video camera of my husband and my relationship. The video camera was my husband and my sexual experience of 15 years. So I said, “Okay God you can have the video camera in my mind.”

I realize there can be these rooms in my mind or my house. And it’s letting God come in and take over my thought life so that the rooms are filled with his presence and his thoughts –not the thoughts of pornography and sexual fantasies even though it was a good marriage. Because when I get into sexual fantasy or watch shows that promote lust, then I’m opening myself up to a spirit of lust or uncleanness. Than next it’s like “I have to have something.” It’s a pressure that I have to have it. I’m glad I could date a guy seriously and not feel that “I’ve got to have it” even though I had sex with my husband for all those years.

When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, 'I will return to the house I left.' When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. hen it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first. That is how it will be with this wicked generation." Matthew 12:43-45

Sort of “God may the words of my mouth and the fantasies of my mind be acceptable in your sight!"

May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14