I’m starting to get the “hang” of the online dating sites as far as how they match you and then you choose if you want to meet a person or not…you can accept them ...yes or no. I was reading this one guy’s main phrase and he said, “I’m an Average Guy.” It inspired me to write the phrase, "Excellent woman seeking an excellent man." Who wants average?
I like the cartoon Yogi Bear, of Jellystone Park, who was smarter than the average bear. When we are looking for someone special in life do we want an average man or woman? I want a special man. I had an above-average intelligent man.
I know some men that are looking for a woman with a certain hair color, a certain height and within a certain age. If you find one spiritual that will love you than good luck in getting your dream wonder woman. Settling down with someone is not necessarily settling for someone, but it’s realizing that we give God the list of what we want and then He knows what we need better than having everything we want. I put my order (list) into God and if the waiter (the Holy Spirit) needs to revise the list according to what is available in the kitchen than I go with what God provides for me. I've had a few opportunities already, but not the connection yet that God wanted me to have. I've prayed and asked the Lord for confirmations on certain men and He confirmed "No." My heavenly Father is really good about informing me on matters of the heart.
He spoke to me that a certain man was going to call me when I came back from Australia and he did. One time He told me that someone was going to cancel their date because they wanted to watch football playoffs, the phone rang minutes later. There is advantage of having the gift of the "word of knowledge" when it comes to dating...LOL
I'm very specific when I want something from God. I had a desire to go to Red Lobster when I drove by it in Avon so I prayed that I would have someone to go to Red Lobster with and I was talking to one of my men friends about going to a movie and he suggested that we go to Red Lobster to eat first. That was just a few days after I had the desire and prayed for a person to eat with at a restaurant. I prayed for a guy friend to go jet skiing with about a year l/2 ago. As soon as the nice weather hit around July, I met my former neighbor Scott and he has been my best jet skiing buddy. He is also a good "wing man" to accompany me on many outings in my quest for the second special love of my life.
I'm glad life is not like Cinderella where there is only one special person out there or my ship would be sunk. My husband's aunt lost three husbands to death. God knows "it's not good for man to be alone (or woman)" and I'm not cut out for single life. In fact, I've asked if He knows what he is doing and that was pretty early on after my husband passed away, because it's never been my gift to be alone. I remember going through depression when my brother went to college when I was a teenager in high school. I was raised with two Catholic families in the neighborhood and I wanted to be their sister when I was younger. I loved playing and being in a big family and that is probably why I ended up with seven children (five of my own and two step-children). My husband was the same way. If I would have had six children, it would not have made a difference, because he loved children.
Just the physical drive alone is a big temptation for me and it took me quite a lot of dating and meeting different duds to meet my husband. God is good about helping me with self control when I need it and He assured me that there are no temptations I will go through in life that He will always provide a way to escape the temptation. Sometimes the enemy is so blatant he can wear horns and a tail. I was at a single's dance and a man I met and I were talking about his sailboat and horses. Just because I was interested in those things, he asked if I wanted to go home with him. That was not a clue to "Let's Spend the Night Together" like the song by the Rolling Stones!
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. 1 Cor. 10:13
Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 1 Thess 4:4-5
Besides, I like to put a man to certain "tests." An example of this is when Abraham sent his servant Eliezer to seek a bride for Isaac and Rebecca past the test of watering camels that his servant put before God. My husband passed the work ethic test and my father gave me a strong work ethic. My husband's father passed on to him a strong work ethic. Genesis 24:1-67
When examining the details of what transpired during this "Camel Test," Rebecca's natural devotion, modesty, sensitivity, responsibility and work ethic are readily apparent.
I have certain other tests too, but it's tests that the Lord has shown me to look for. The story of Ruth is the same as far as Boaz passed the test of protecting Ruth by making sure his hired hands did not hurt her when she was in the field getting wheat, he told his help to leave more wheat in the field for her (a good provider) and he did not take advantage of Ruth although she was rather aggressive in following what Naomi told her to do by laying at his feet when he was drunk during harvest time.
I wanted a person who was in the computer field like me (that is what I advertised in my single’s ad when I met my husband---but he was a professional engineer), dresses nice (my husband wore jeans), smells nice (he was allergic to deodorant and cologne) preferably in the military at one time so he did not mind making beds, cleaning toilets, and reporting for duty (checking in with me), affectionate, romantic and loved children. Everything I just named was someone I dated before my husband, but did not work out. My husband did not have any of those qualities that I just listed except the children part, but he had many good qualities that for the long haul in helping me raise four children. God knew he was the best person for me.
God gave me a nice man. He was a young Christian as far as just coming back to the Lord from a teenage conversion. Physically, my husband was tall, dark, handsome and brown-eyed which is what I usually go for, but I've seen some cute short, blonde, blue-eyed guys that I find very appealing!
I’ve posted a song below that talks about God is everything I want and need, because I don’t believe a person can be everything I want and need. The person may be what I want, but not what I need or they may have what I need, but not be everything I want. If you got everything you want and need in a person and they are spiritual than maybe you got them to become that way over time?
My husband and I would go to Verizon concerts and he would zone me out (that was his zone and I would consider it was a dead zone for me) because music was a love of his. Another one was skiing, he would disappear on the ski slopes and I just slowed him down from having fun. Many times, I was his teddy bear that he dragged along and rather plopped down beside him (sometimes unwillingly). I would watch couples that were affectionate with their arms around each other standing in front of us at Verizon concerts and I could barely get my husband’s attention to hold my hand. I was “lonely” married for awhile, until I got my husband to realize that I had needs of affectionate that were not met through a physical relationship. My husband had to go “outside” himself of what he saw modeled by his father to meet those needs because he was not raised with affection.
There is a book on learning each other’s love languages and he finally learned my love language which I believe he learned Agape. He did come around. What I determined is that I would build my husband’s ego every day and send him into the world that he was the greatest man to me. I’ve heard the saying, “if you don’t stroke your husband’s ego someone else will.”
A wise woman builds her house. She builds it with her words. I hear a lot of Christian woman talk about wanting to be a friend to a man first. Norman Vincent Peale states in his book on Positive Thinking that if you build a person’s ego, you have made a friend for a life time. My husband was my friend for my life time because I built his ego. It’s the same way with my friends. God has called me to encourage my friends and build their ego.
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33
I know housekeeper does not seem like a “glorious” calling. I have some friends that have traveled to 27 countries preaching the gospel, but that is what God called me over being an evangelist and a prophet. That is what I’m most happy with is pleasing a man and bringing up children. That calling of bringing up children started as early as a teenager in my life when I chose life over abortion. I prayed about adoption and was not lead that way. My first calling was raising children. The ministry expanded to birthing spiritual children, but I still see myself very involved with my grandchildren. I have friends who are very involved with their grandchildren.
The Lord showed me a long time ago through a Christian ministry I was in that the elders told me they would not send me overseas for missionary work, because at the time I was a single mother. My life could have been a lot different as far as I could be in another country right now in a ministry. But God had a “high calling” on my life and that calling was homemaker. My mother was a full-time housewife up until I was the last child in high school she went to work. I knew in my heart I wanted to be like my mother. Life did not turn out completely like I wanted it as far as working all my life to support my children, but I do consider that family is very important in my life.
He spoke to me that a certain man was going to call me when I came back from Australia and he did. One time He told me that someone was going to cancel their date because they wanted to watch football playoffs, the phone rang minutes later. There is advantage of having the gift of the "word of knowledge" when it comes to dating...LOL
I'm very specific when I want something from God. I had a desire to go to Red Lobster when I drove by it in Avon so I prayed that I would have someone to go to Red Lobster with and I was talking to one of my men friends about going to a movie and he suggested that we go to Red Lobster to eat first. That was just a few days after I had the desire and prayed for a person to eat with at a restaurant. I prayed for a guy friend to go jet skiing with about a year l/2 ago. As soon as the nice weather hit around July, I met my former neighbor Scott and he has been my best jet skiing buddy. He is also a good "wing man" to accompany me on many outings in my quest for the second special love of my life.
I'm glad life is not like Cinderella where there is only one special person out there or my ship would be sunk. My husband's aunt lost three husbands to death. God knows "it's not good for man to be alone (or woman)" and I'm not cut out for single life. In fact, I've asked if He knows what he is doing and that was pretty early on after my husband passed away, because it's never been my gift to be alone. I remember going through depression when my brother went to college when I was a teenager in high school. I was raised with two Catholic families in the neighborhood and I wanted to be their sister when I was younger. I loved playing and being in a big family and that is probably why I ended up with seven children (five of my own and two step-children). My husband was the same way. If I would have had six children, it would not have made a difference, because he loved children.
Just the physical drive alone is a big temptation for me and it took me quite a lot of dating and meeting different duds to meet my husband. God is good about helping me with self control when I need it and He assured me that there are no temptations I will go through in life that He will always provide a way to escape the temptation. Sometimes the enemy is so blatant he can wear horns and a tail. I was at a single's dance and a man I met and I were talking about his sailboat and horses. Just because I was interested in those things, he asked if I wanted to go home with him. That was not a clue to "Let's Spend the Night Together" like the song by the Rolling Stones!
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. 1 Cor. 10:13
Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 1 Thess 4:4-5
Besides, I like to put a man to certain "tests." An example of this is when Abraham sent his servant Eliezer to seek a bride for Isaac and Rebecca past the test of watering camels that his servant put before God. My husband passed the work ethic test and my father gave me a strong work ethic. My husband's father passed on to him a strong work ethic. Genesis 24:1-67
When examining the details of what transpired during this "Camel Test," Rebecca's natural devotion, modesty, sensitivity, responsibility and work ethic are readily apparent.
I have certain other tests too, but it's tests that the Lord has shown me to look for. The story of Ruth is the same as far as Boaz passed the test of protecting Ruth by making sure his hired hands did not hurt her when she was in the field getting wheat, he told his help to leave more wheat in the field for her (a good provider) and he did not take advantage of Ruth although she was rather aggressive in following what Naomi told her to do by laying at his feet when he was drunk during harvest time.
I wanted a person who was in the computer field like me (that is what I advertised in my single’s ad when I met my husband---but he was a professional engineer), dresses nice (my husband wore jeans), smells nice (he was allergic to deodorant and cologne) preferably in the military at one time so he did not mind making beds, cleaning toilets, and reporting for duty (checking in with me), affectionate, romantic and loved children. Everything I just named was someone I dated before my husband, but did not work out. My husband did not have any of those qualities that I just listed except the children part, but he had many good qualities that for the long haul in helping me raise four children. God knew he was the best person for me.
God gave me a nice man. He was a young Christian as far as just coming back to the Lord from a teenage conversion. Physically, my husband was tall, dark, handsome and brown-eyed which is what I usually go for, but I've seen some cute short, blonde, blue-eyed guys that I find very appealing!
I’ve posted a song below that talks about God is everything I want and need, because I don’t believe a person can be everything I want and need. The person may be what I want, but not what I need or they may have what I need, but not be everything I want. If you got everything you want and need in a person and they are spiritual than maybe you got them to become that way over time?
My husband and I would go to Verizon concerts and he would zone me out (that was his zone and I would consider it was a dead zone for me) because music was a love of his. Another one was skiing, he would disappear on the ski slopes and I just slowed him down from having fun. Many times, I was his teddy bear that he dragged along and rather plopped down beside him (sometimes unwillingly). I would watch couples that were affectionate with their arms around each other standing in front of us at Verizon concerts and I could barely get my husband’s attention to hold my hand. I was “lonely” married for awhile, until I got my husband to realize that I had needs of affectionate that were not met through a physical relationship. My husband had to go “outside” himself of what he saw modeled by his father to meet those needs because he was not raised with affection.
There is a book on learning each other’s love languages and he finally learned my love language which I believe he learned Agape. He did come around. What I determined is that I would build my husband’s ego every day and send him into the world that he was the greatest man to me. I’ve heard the saying, “if you don’t stroke your husband’s ego someone else will.”
A wise woman builds her house. She builds it with her words. I hear a lot of Christian woman talk about wanting to be a friend to a man first. Norman Vincent Peale states in his book on Positive Thinking that if you build a person’s ego, you have made a friend for a life time. My husband was my friend for my life time because I built his ego. It’s the same way with my friends. God has called me to encourage my friends and build their ego.
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33
I know housekeeper does not seem like a “glorious” calling. I have some friends that have traveled to 27 countries preaching the gospel, but that is what God called me over being an evangelist and a prophet. That is what I’m most happy with is pleasing a man and bringing up children. That calling of bringing up children started as early as a teenager in my life when I chose life over abortion. I prayed about adoption and was not lead that way. My first calling was raising children. The ministry expanded to birthing spiritual children, but I still see myself very involved with my grandchildren. I have friends who are very involved with their grandchildren.
The Lord showed me a long time ago through a Christian ministry I was in that the elders told me they would not send me overseas for missionary work, because at the time I was a single mother. My life could have been a lot different as far as I could be in another country right now in a ministry. But God had a “high calling” on my life and that calling was homemaker. My mother was a full-time housewife up until I was the last child in high school she went to work. I knew in my heart I wanted to be like my mother. Life did not turn out completely like I wanted it as far as working all my life to support my children, but I do consider that family is very important in my life.
to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. Titus 2:5
I believe in love and God knows I want another love in my life. He told me to be patient. One reason I’m very “for” online dating sites is I see it is like learning a job. I’ve spent seven years of my life in on-the-job training when it came to learning computers first in CRTs, word processors and than various office software on an IBM computer, especially databases, spreadsheets, and desktop publishing. Later, I went to college to go on with that computer knowledge in programming using mainframes and then object-oriented programming. Next, I learned computer graphics software. That is the mission of college is that I can be educated in the field of computers to better my job opportunities.
I know people going to Christian single socials for 20-30 years and they have not met their spouse and yet they want to be married. Maybe they are on-the-job training, but like college, if you go to an online dating site than that is their mission to match you with a person and increase your dating opportunities like college increases your job opportunities. They have a high success rate and I’m a person that likes to go with what produces results. My cousin met his wife through an online site, I met my husband through a single’s ad and my husband’s best friend met his wife through match.com. To me it is like sales. I like what produces results. I'm a results-oriented person. That is what I got in the past, and I’ve seen history repeat itself over and over so I’m going by history. I got results. I will be patient that history can repeat itself a second time. God can do anything He wants to do, I'm just along for the joy ride..since he is driving my car now like Peter as the scripture below I'm not a young Christian anymore.
I tell you the truth, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go." John 21:18
Draw Me Close To You
I tell you the truth, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go." John 21:18
Draw Me Close To You
Draw me close to You
Never let me go
I lay it all down again
To hear You say that I'm Your friend
You are my desire
No one else will do
'Cause nothing else could take Your place
To feel the warmth of Your embrace
Help me find the way
Bring me back to You
You're all I want
You're all I've ever needed
You're all I want
Help me know You are near
Never let me go
I lay it all down again
To hear You say that I'm Your friend
You are my desire
No one else will do
'Cause nothing else could take Your place
To feel the warmth of Your embrace
Help me find the way
Bring me back to You
You're all I want
You're all I've ever needed
You're all I want
Help me know You are near
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