My mother could not get my father to propose. He was dragging his feet
and she had another marriage proposal from a man so it gave my father a
"kick in the pants" to ask her to marry him. She said that she really
wanted to marry my dad, but he had a fear of commitment.
When it comes to buying a house, a car, getting a job
there are negotiations. I interviewed at one job at IUPUI university
where the person I worked for did not ask me any questions. The whole
hour interview he talked about himself. It was a strange interview. I
interviewed first with their HR director. My third interview was with
the head of the department and he asked me illegal questions like "Are
You Married" and "How Many Kids Do You Have?" At the time I had six
children so I figured that would blow it, but they hired me.
But then a call came to interview for the Chancellor at Ivy Tech Community College before I started at IUPUI, and with that interview I was offered $5K more salary. The job
at Ivy Tech was key in getting my current job now that I have had for 12
years because of experience with working in education. The other
position was medical-related.
When I put a single's ad in a
magazine when I was divorced a major deal breaker was my four children.
Not many men would consider taking on four children.
I find
in life that when I hold out, better offers come along. I've had people
who try to convince me to do something. I've sat down with men from
dating sites who said they really wanted to date me, but I did not have
faith or a peace to date them. It says in God's word that whatever is
not of faith is sin Romans 14:23. I've noticed when I hold out, that
eventually quality goes up in life. Same with my roommates who rented
---the more women I interviewed the better the roommates.
I
was trying to sell my husband's Clarinet on Craig's List and this guy
wanted to buy it for his wife as a gag gift for Christmas. I had it
listed for $90 and he was trying to talk me down, but I held out on my
price and out of the blue two months later I got a call from a pastor's
wife who son left his rental on the bus and it was lost. She said her
son was sitting in music class without an instrument.
Her son
had a need, and I had what she wanted and she was willing to pay the
full price of what I wanted. I can think of one house I bought where I
offered the full asking price because we really wanted that house and it
was such a good deal, we did not want to be out bid, but most homes
there were negotiations.
It's still being reasonable. I am a reasonable person. I've met some people where you can't reason with them about anything, because everything has to be their way in life.
Even in the Bible, God negotiated with Abraham the terms of Sodom and
Gomorrah's destruction as far as what he believed those terms should be
and the terms were ten righteous people. If Abraham would have gone
farther down and God found the number Abraham negotiated, those cities
would have been spared. It's amazing that God put the terms of the
negotiation on Abraham.
King Hezekiah got 15 years added to
his life after a prophet warned him that he was going to die. He cried
out to God, and before the prophet even left the palace, he turned
around and gave him a different word from God.
David knew that
there were negotiations with God and that is why he fasted and prayed
for his first child to be healed. The town of Nineveh was spared
because of their repentance.
Come on now, let's discuss this
(reason together)!" says the Lord. "Though your sins are bright red,
they will become as white as snow. Though they are dark red, they will
become as white as wool. Isaiah 1:18
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