Some of these men's profiles online are a joke, especially the
pictures. They remind me of a "mug" shot as far as no smile. This one
guy posted pictures of himself with monitors all over him in a hospital bed.
Maybe he is happy to be alive, but with my husband's heart attack it
is definitely not what I'm interested in. Another man posted a picture
of the top of his bald head. Some people are not very good at taking
pictures with their cell phone. Sometimes they are too close to their
face and they look distorted.
If I'm going to send a resume to an employer, I want a "catchy" resume. No wonder some people have complained that they don't get many emails from women, its like they are not trying very hard.
For just my job alone we usually get around 180 resumes and I find with those higher up type positions it may take three interviews with several people. E-Harmony says to give a man five dates, but there are times I don't give a person more than one encounter.
One close encounter of the Third Kind for me is enough.
If at the first encounter within the space of ten minutes a Christian man tells me he drinks too much beer, has anger problems with his ex-girl friend or his ex-wife and he cusses too much or looks at pornography, I take that as two or three confirmations from God not to date this man. It's nice to have a man who has a good self-image.
This will be my third visit to you. "Every matter must be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses." 2 Cor. 13:1
I've sat down with several men who wanted me to date him and some have sent me emails each week still wanting to date. I had a couple of men that dumped me (stood me up) after several dates, and then they were back emailing me again. I don't like to be a ping pong ball bounced back and forth. Even the Apostle Paul would not give John Mark a second chance. I find that if a man can't make up his mind the first time, it's not good to try again. Counselors say this is a man who is still "fishing around." He is not settled on what he wants.
A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. James 1:8
The reason I have not dated some men is that I did not have a "peace" from God to date them, and I try to follow that inner witness of the heart.
The Bible talks about a "peace" that passes all understanding. It says, "In your patience possess your soul." Luke 21:19. I find like getting renters for my house or going job hunting, that when we keep putting our self out there and keep interviewing, a good job offer comes a long, a good roommate comes along, and eventually a good man comes along. Patience and then prayer is a key too -- getting my prayer requests heard and answered of God. Jesus said, "Men should always pray and not give up."
I met my husband through a single's personal ad and it was beyond my comfort zone in thinking I would be meet a stalker, but I learned to take a risk. It's like the stock market.
I was listening to this man on the radio who said that online dating is like playing the slot machine. I started laughing thinking, "Well I guess I like the slot machine of dating, because it worked in the past and it keeps me busy meeting new men.
It reminds me of a good buffet in trying out different food. I like Christian television because of all the different ministries and it's a good buffet spiritually, and I don't like to put limitations on God. Online dating is one way to meet a person and I personally believe it's a good way because their "mission" is to match up people.
I was talking to a man recently divorced at a Christian picnic and I told him the problem with meeting a man at church or a Bible study is our focus should be on the worship of God and if we go scoping out the singles at church, than our mind is in the wrong place.
I heard a great story of Ruth last night and Ruth ended up at the right place and the right time. She ended up gleaning in the field of Boaz. I want my mind in the right place at the right time. If I go to meet a man through online dating we are both on the "same" page as far as the expectation is to date.
My husband and I did not buy the first house we looked at. Then later in our marriage, we built our house from the ground up. A relationship is like building from the ground up and I like a good foundation. The main foundation is Jesus Christ. My husband was a very young Christian who just came back to the Lord after a 13-year hiatus so that had its downer at times during our 14-year marriage. His walk with God improved over time, but sometimes when he got discouraged instead of going to God, he went away from God like he did in his past.
I don't "dominate" a man's spiritual walk and I hate it when a man tries to control mine. Henry Cloud and John Townsend talk about this in their book on "Boundaries of Dating." If a man or woman treats their spouse like a child, children eventually grow up and leave their father or mother. A marriage relationship works with two emotional and spiritual adults, not when one is being childish. In 1 Cor. 13, Paul talked about putting off childish or selfish ways.
I believe in spiritual authority and headship, but I find giving a man "absolute power corrupts absolutely" so there were times when my husband wanted to lie, and he wanted to cover some stuff up that he shouldn't have like David did in relationship to what his kids were doing and not attend church on Sunday, I was not in agreement with those decisions. Then there were times I was more like Bonnie and went along with Clyde in his crime (sin) and wish I didn't. In Ephesians it talks about "submitting one to another."
I won't lay a foundation with a man unless I believe the relationship has enough going for it. One thing I look at is a man's brain harnessed or wired the way my brain is. My brain is wired that I like to come home to a man and enjoy his company, that I like a daily "check in" policy like a hotel, a tolerance for each other's weaknesses or faults (not so critical and fault finding), a good view about sex, not stingy with money, and taking things at stride (don't get too hung up on stupid stuff).
For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you. Luke 14:29
Once we find a person like minded (their brain wired the same way or a similar value system) than the relationship is more likely to work as far as it has a lot going for it from the start. I've connected with several men on some of this. For some reason I've had a hard time connecting with a man on physical attraction. I'm not sure why that is only to say that I like a guy who is active and I don't meet enough active men my age. I'm not opposed to older men if they are very active.
complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Philip 2:2
Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? Amos 3:3
I've got several pictures online with my scuba diving, bungy jumping (although I don't expect a man to bungy jump) and then some where I have the more feminine approach which is a black dress.
I've listened to some secular advise and they said for women that are "on top" as far as a career that they should have more sex appeal. I believe a better term is wear a dress when we go out, nice perfume, hair nice, and nice nails, and high heels and be a woman. I think many men still want to sleep with a woman.
And I'm saving myself for the right man. God has restored my innocence like when I first became a Christian. I was water baptized in a wedding dress I made for my son's father when I first became a Christian. I recognized that I am married to Jesus, he is my first husband. It's good to be restored in my virtues by finding a man who treated me like a princess. I had a low self esteem coming out a divorce previously. Proverbs talks about a faithful man, it is very similar to a virtuous woman like Proverbs 31:
Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love, but a faithful man who can find? Proverbs 20:6
If I'm going to send a resume to an employer, I want a "catchy" resume. No wonder some people have complained that they don't get many emails from women, its like they are not trying very hard.
For just my job alone we usually get around 180 resumes and I find with those higher up type positions it may take three interviews with several people. E-Harmony says to give a man five dates, but there are times I don't give a person more than one encounter.
One close encounter of the Third Kind for me is enough.
If at the first encounter within the space of ten minutes a Christian man tells me he drinks too much beer, has anger problems with his ex-girl friend or his ex-wife and he cusses too much or looks at pornography, I take that as two or three confirmations from God not to date this man. It's nice to have a man who has a good self-image.
This will be my third visit to you. "Every matter must be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses." 2 Cor. 13:1
I've sat down with several men who wanted me to date him and some have sent me emails each week still wanting to date. I had a couple of men that dumped me (stood me up) after several dates, and then they were back emailing me again. I don't like to be a ping pong ball bounced back and forth. Even the Apostle Paul would not give John Mark a second chance. I find that if a man can't make up his mind the first time, it's not good to try again. Counselors say this is a man who is still "fishing around." He is not settled on what he wants.
A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. James 1:8
The reason I have not dated some men is that I did not have a "peace" from God to date them, and I try to follow that inner witness of the heart.
The Bible talks about a "peace" that passes all understanding. It says, "In your patience possess your soul." Luke 21:19. I find like getting renters for my house or going job hunting, that when we keep putting our self out there and keep interviewing, a good job offer comes a long, a good roommate comes along, and eventually a good man comes along. Patience and then prayer is a key too -- getting my prayer requests heard and answered of God. Jesus said, "Men should always pray and not give up."
I met my husband through a single's personal ad and it was beyond my comfort zone in thinking I would be meet a stalker, but I learned to take a risk. It's like the stock market.
I was listening to this man on the radio who said that online dating is like playing the slot machine. I started laughing thinking, "Well I guess I like the slot machine of dating, because it worked in the past and it keeps me busy meeting new men.
It reminds me of a good buffet in trying out different food. I like Christian television because of all the different ministries and it's a good buffet spiritually, and I don't like to put limitations on God. Online dating is one way to meet a person and I personally believe it's a good way because their "mission" is to match up people.
I was talking to a man recently divorced at a Christian picnic and I told him the problem with meeting a man at church or a Bible study is our focus should be on the worship of God and if we go scoping out the singles at church, than our mind is in the wrong place.
I heard a great story of Ruth last night and Ruth ended up at the right place and the right time. She ended up gleaning in the field of Boaz. I want my mind in the right place at the right time. If I go to meet a man through online dating we are both on the "same" page as far as the expectation is to date.
My husband and I did not buy the first house we looked at. Then later in our marriage, we built our house from the ground up. A relationship is like building from the ground up and I like a good foundation. The main foundation is Jesus Christ. My husband was a very young Christian who just came back to the Lord after a 13-year hiatus so that had its downer at times during our 14-year marriage. His walk with God improved over time, but sometimes when he got discouraged instead of going to God, he went away from God like he did in his past.
I don't "dominate" a man's spiritual walk and I hate it when a man tries to control mine. Henry Cloud and John Townsend talk about this in their book on "Boundaries of Dating." If a man or woman treats their spouse like a child, children eventually grow up and leave their father or mother. A marriage relationship works with two emotional and spiritual adults, not when one is being childish. In 1 Cor. 13, Paul talked about putting off childish or selfish ways.
I believe in spiritual authority and headship, but I find giving a man "absolute power corrupts absolutely" so there were times when my husband wanted to lie, and he wanted to cover some stuff up that he shouldn't have like David did in relationship to what his kids were doing and not attend church on Sunday, I was not in agreement with those decisions. Then there were times I was more like Bonnie and went along with Clyde in his crime (sin) and wish I didn't. In Ephesians it talks about "submitting one to another."
I won't lay a foundation with a man unless I believe the relationship has enough going for it. One thing I look at is a man's brain harnessed or wired the way my brain is. My brain is wired that I like to come home to a man and enjoy his company, that I like a daily "check in" policy like a hotel, a tolerance for each other's weaknesses or faults (not so critical and fault finding), a good view about sex, not stingy with money, and taking things at stride (don't get too hung up on stupid stuff).
For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you. Luke 14:29
Once we find a person like minded (their brain wired the same way or a similar value system) than the relationship is more likely to work as far as it has a lot going for it from the start. I've connected with several men on some of this. For some reason I've had a hard time connecting with a man on physical attraction. I'm not sure why that is only to say that I like a guy who is active and I don't meet enough active men my age. I'm not opposed to older men if they are very active.
complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Philip 2:2
Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? Amos 3:3
I've got several pictures online with my scuba diving, bungy jumping (although I don't expect a man to bungy jump) and then some where I have the more feminine approach which is a black dress.
I've listened to some secular advise and they said for women that are "on top" as far as a career that they should have more sex appeal. I believe a better term is wear a dress when we go out, nice perfume, hair nice, and nice nails, and high heels and be a woman. I think many men still want to sleep with a woman.
And I'm saving myself for the right man. God has restored my innocence like when I first became a Christian. I was water baptized in a wedding dress I made for my son's father when I first became a Christian. I recognized that I am married to Jesus, he is my first husband. It's good to be restored in my virtues by finding a man who treated me like a princess. I had a low self esteem coming out a divorce previously. Proverbs talks about a faithful man, it is very similar to a virtuous woman like Proverbs 31:
Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love, but a faithful man who can find? Proverbs 20:6
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