The Power of Touch Love Language
Hollywood has sold us a "bag of goods" of what love is which is only romantic love. I did not read many romance novels growing up, but I watched enough TV soap operas with my mother as a teenager, and loved fairy tales about prince charming. I believe love is an act of the will. Physical attraction will be involved with the opposite sex, but many people are in infatuation when they first meet, and then they fall out of love when they get to know the real person. I believe love is a decision of the will to love a person, because you could take in a teenage foster child, have no history with that teenager, but choose to love and take care of that teen. It may be the most difficult relationship you ever were involved in your life if the teenager is hostile towards you, but you can still make a decision to give unconditional love to the teen. For us who have raised teen step-children, it takes unconditional love.
I was at a secular single’s group a couple of weekends ago, and a single man asked me what were my two love languages. He said he had read the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. That was the first time I spoke to him so I don’t know if that was a pickup line, but if he is saying that he wants to know a person’s love language so he can meet her needs, and he wants a person to know his love languages so she can meet his needs in a future mate, than that is the best pickup line I’ve ever heard.
One reason I like ballroom dancing or slow dancing, is contact with the opposite sex since I miss affection that I had for fifteen years with my husband and cuddling. I find physical contact, meets a need in my life as far as not starving myself for a man’s touch. I learned this lesson early on after dating a Christian man who had those “roaming hands/rushing fingers.” He wanted something else when I wanted affection. He gave wonderful back massages. He said he learned massages so he could please his former ex-wife. I found the more I dated him, the less the affection and the massages and he went straight to pushing for something else. I did not go through that experience with my husband, as far as he was a gentleman in not coercing or pushing me to do something against my will.
I’ve already had a marriage in the past that was strictly built on physical passion, and I can only cut out my soul for so long and then when other needs are not getting met in the relationship, eventually it will catch up with me. If you remember the movie, Ghost (posted the lyrics below) and the lyrics to the theme song, “I hunger for your touch," every widow I talk to hungers for a man's touch.
When I dance with a man I like, I usually hold his hands and if there is a nice touch with his hands, it is something I’ve notice that is a connection I make with man. Once in awhile, I find there are jerks that like to brush hard against my breasts, and I was not born yesterday. I always told that to my children. It’s the saying “it takes a thief to catch a thief” or it takes a “con to catch a con.” My children did not do anything I did or considered doing in my past.
I’ve danced with guys that there was not a very good touch and that could be a clue to how affectionate a man is going to be in a relationship. The same can be true when I hold his hand. There is something about touch that is a “clue” to a potential good spouse. As in the movie, Sleepless in Seattle, if a man holds my hand and you have that “I’m at home feeling” that is just another good indication of a soul mate.
As a woman, we have a powerful mechanism in giving love to our potential loved one and others through the power of touch. I spoke to my sister-in-law and she said she never remembered being rocked or cuddled by her mother or father as a little girl, but she was by her grandparents. At the beginning of my marriage, my husband was not very affectionate. My sister-in-law said the ex-wife complained about the same fault. When the disciples tried to make the children leave, Jesus wanted to hold and touch the children.
I read a man’s column that said a “Knight in shining armor” is a man who will hold a woman without the implication of sex when she needs encouragement. I used to get mad at my husband because many times, I would ask him to just hold me, and then he would start doing other things to my body. He never could understand that when a woman has a bad day, she wants a bear hug.
I like reading what Peter had to say about marriage, because Peter spoke from the experience of having a wife. He talked about dwelling with your wife according to knowledge. A husband would understand her needs/love languages.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with [them] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:6
Pet Lovers Make Affectionate Mates in Life
Programs train dogs to help blind people, pets are brought into rehab hospitals, children cancer wards, and jails to provide company for lonely people. Whenever I see a single man petting a dog or a cat, I can’t help but think, “Gee I want to get some of that affection.” I was petting my cat one day, and I realized I am just like this cat; I like lots of love and attention from a man. When I walk into a single’s group, if I can get a man’s attention, I “eat it up.” I enjoyed love and attention from my husband. My cat would greet me when I walk in the house every day just waiting for my love and affection. I am the same way. I did not have the opportunity to greet my husband with a teddy on (being that we had six little children in the house), but I loved a big kiss when I saw him.
My husband had asthma and he did not raise pets growing up in his house because of being allergic to cat dander. He would come over when we were dating, and my cat Rocky would go sit in his lap. He would pet him and my husband would tell me how he was allergic to cats. It was like my cat would purposely come sit on his lap knowing he did not like animals. At the time I remember thinking, “Rocky is part of this family so you are going to go before Rocky goes.” Rocky moved with us and he made it to two other neighborhoods before he met his destiny with his maker by a car on 10th Street.
A righteous man cares for the needs of his animal, but the kindest acts of the wicked are cruel. Proverbs 12:10
For it is written in the Law of Moses: "Do not muzzle an ox while it is treading out the grain." Is it about oxen that God is concerned? 1 Cor. 9:9
My husband’s bad attitude towards pets continued when I bought a Polmeranian dog for my daughter. My husband called him “Little Snot” because he would bark/yap at him every time he walked in the door. My husband would stomp just to “spite him.” The problem I see with a person who was not raised as a child to care for pets is that it denies a person taking care of a living thing, and not just thinking about one self. Giving an animal attention and affection helps a child grow into being more responsible and also having household chores.
I meet guys caught up into taking care of their cars or motorcycles, but I’m not sure this is the same thing. I’ve noticed that I can tell many times how a person is going to be a good mate, because they can transfer their love and affection from an animal or if they have a good attitude towards little children from being around a niece or nephew, they will be good parents. I’m glad I had the opportunities from my parents in raising different animals. I also had many opportunities to babysit for my sister and other people’s children as a teenager.
Some people are avid bird watchers. There are some very beautiful birds in Hawaii and I enjoyed seeing some new birds in Australia. I took several pictures of birds in New Zealand. I don’t believe I have a good appreciation of birds. I saw Alfred Hitchcock’s movie, The Birds when I was a child and it rather frighten me of wild birds. My dad would shoot crows for getting in the garden especially the strawberry patch. Our house was in-between two corn fields. They rotated crops between corn and then soy beans. I really could not appreciate this scripture about birds until I saw a faculty member who tenderly cared for a baby Robin he found on the ground near our offices. It’s because he tenderly cares for his parrot bird at home like that. Just like that faculty instructor, God notices the birds and knows us.
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. Matthew 10:29-31
Unchained Melody (love theme from Ghost)
Whoa! My love, my darling,
I hunger for your touch,
Alone. Lonely time.
And time goes by, so slowly,
And time can do so much,
Are you still mine?
I need your love.
I need your love.
God speed your love to me.
Lonely rivers flow to the sea, to the sea,
To the open arms of the sea.
Lonely rivers sigh, wait for me, wait for me,
I'll be coming home, wait for me.
Whoa! My love, my darling,
I hunger, hunger!, for your love,
For love. Lonely time.
And time goes by, so slowly,
And time can do so much,
Are you still mine?
I need your love.
I need your love.
God speed your love to me.
Hollywood has sold us a "bag of goods" of what love is which is only romantic love. I did not read many romance novels growing up, but I watched enough TV soap operas with my mother as a teenager, and loved fairy tales about prince charming. I believe love is an act of the will. Physical attraction will be involved with the opposite sex, but many people are in infatuation when they first meet, and then they fall out of love when they get to know the real person. I believe love is a decision of the will to love a person, because you could take in a teenage foster child, have no history with that teenager, but choose to love and take care of that teen. It may be the most difficult relationship you ever were involved in your life if the teenager is hostile towards you, but you can still make a decision to give unconditional love to the teen. For us who have raised teen step-children, it takes unconditional love.
I was at a secular single’s group a couple of weekends ago, and a single man asked me what were my two love languages. He said he had read the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. That was the first time I spoke to him so I don’t know if that was a pickup line, but if he is saying that he wants to know a person’s love language so he can meet her needs, and he wants a person to know his love languages so she can meet his needs in a future mate, than that is the best pickup line I’ve ever heard.
One reason I like ballroom dancing or slow dancing, is contact with the opposite sex since I miss affection that I had for fifteen years with my husband and cuddling. I find physical contact, meets a need in my life as far as not starving myself for a man’s touch. I learned this lesson early on after dating a Christian man who had those “roaming hands/rushing fingers.” He wanted something else when I wanted affection. He gave wonderful back massages. He said he learned massages so he could please his former ex-wife. I found the more I dated him, the less the affection and the massages and he went straight to pushing for something else. I did not go through that experience with my husband, as far as he was a gentleman in not coercing or pushing me to do something against my will.
I’ve already had a marriage in the past that was strictly built on physical passion, and I can only cut out my soul for so long and then when other needs are not getting met in the relationship, eventually it will catch up with me. If you remember the movie, Ghost (posted the lyrics below) and the lyrics to the theme song, “I hunger for your touch," every widow I talk to hungers for a man's touch.
When I dance with a man I like, I usually hold his hands and if there is a nice touch with his hands, it is something I’ve notice that is a connection I make with man. Once in awhile, I find there are jerks that like to brush hard against my breasts, and I was not born yesterday. I always told that to my children. It’s the saying “it takes a thief to catch a thief” or it takes a “con to catch a con.” My children did not do anything I did or considered doing in my past.
I’ve danced with guys that there was not a very good touch and that could be a clue to how affectionate a man is going to be in a relationship. The same can be true when I hold his hand. There is something about touch that is a “clue” to a potential good spouse. As in the movie, Sleepless in Seattle, if a man holds my hand and you have that “I’m at home feeling” that is just another good indication of a soul mate.
As a woman, we have a powerful mechanism in giving love to our potential loved one and others through the power of touch. I spoke to my sister-in-law and she said she never remembered being rocked or cuddled by her mother or father as a little girl, but she was by her grandparents. At the beginning of my marriage, my husband was not very affectionate. My sister-in-law said the ex-wife complained about the same fault. When the disciples tried to make the children leave, Jesus wanted to hold and touch the children.
People were also bringing babies to Jesus to have him touch them. When the disciples saw this, they rebuked them. But Jesus called the children to him and said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Luke 18:15-16
I would go to concerts at Verizon on a regular basis and he loved music. Satan would torment me with couples standing in front of us with their arms around each other and my husband would not do that. For awhile, I started feeling lonely married. After going through several concerts being miserable, I started reaching out to my husband and being the one to initiate hand holding, hugging and touch and he came around to where I believe eventually touch was his love language. It was not at first, but later he became affectionate. I had a previous marriage where my husband would not allow me to touch him; he said it irritated him whenever I touched any part of his body. I know some people are not comfortable with hugging in public, and it may be because they did not have much affection in their family, like my husband.I read a man’s column that said a “Knight in shining armor” is a man who will hold a woman without the implication of sex when she needs encouragement. I used to get mad at my husband because many times, I would ask him to just hold me, and then he would start doing other things to my body. He never could understand that when a woman has a bad day, she wants a bear hug.
I like reading what Peter had to say about marriage, because Peter spoke from the experience of having a wife. He talked about dwelling with your wife according to knowledge. A husband would understand her needs/love languages.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with [them] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:6
Pet Lovers Make Affectionate Mates in Life
Programs train dogs to help blind people, pets are brought into rehab hospitals, children cancer wards, and jails to provide company for lonely people. Whenever I see a single man petting a dog or a cat, I can’t help but think, “Gee I want to get some of that affection.” I was petting my cat one day, and I realized I am just like this cat; I like lots of love and attention from a man. When I walk into a single’s group, if I can get a man’s attention, I “eat it up.” I enjoyed love and attention from my husband. My cat would greet me when I walk in the house every day just waiting for my love and affection. I am the same way. I did not have the opportunity to greet my husband with a teddy on (being that we had six little children in the house), but I loved a big kiss when I saw him.
My husband had asthma and he did not raise pets growing up in his house because of being allergic to cat dander. He would come over when we were dating, and my cat Rocky would go sit in his lap. He would pet him and my husband would tell me how he was allergic to cats. It was like my cat would purposely come sit on his lap knowing he did not like animals. At the time I remember thinking, “Rocky is part of this family so you are going to go before Rocky goes.” Rocky moved with us and he made it to two other neighborhoods before he met his destiny with his maker by a car on 10th Street.
A righteous man cares for the needs of his animal, but the kindest acts of the wicked are cruel. Proverbs 12:10
For it is written in the Law of Moses: "Do not muzzle an ox while it is treading out the grain." Is it about oxen that God is concerned? 1 Cor. 9:9
My husband’s bad attitude towards pets continued when I bought a Polmeranian dog for my daughter. My husband called him “Little Snot” because he would bark/yap at him every time he walked in the door. My husband would stomp just to “spite him.” The problem I see with a person who was not raised as a child to care for pets is that it denies a person taking care of a living thing, and not just thinking about one self. Giving an animal attention and affection helps a child grow into being more responsible and also having household chores.
I meet guys caught up into taking care of their cars or motorcycles, but I’m not sure this is the same thing. I’ve noticed that I can tell many times how a person is going to be a good mate, because they can transfer their love and affection from an animal or if they have a good attitude towards little children from being around a niece or nephew, they will be good parents. I’m glad I had the opportunities from my parents in raising different animals. I also had many opportunities to babysit for my sister and other people’s children as a teenager.
Some people are avid bird watchers. There are some very beautiful birds in Hawaii and I enjoyed seeing some new birds in Australia. I took several pictures of birds in New Zealand. I don’t believe I have a good appreciation of birds. I saw Alfred Hitchcock’s movie, The Birds when I was a child and it rather frighten me of wild birds. My dad would shoot crows for getting in the garden especially the strawberry patch. Our house was in-between two corn fields. They rotated crops between corn and then soy beans. I really could not appreciate this scripture about birds until I saw a faculty member who tenderly cared for a baby Robin he found on the ground near our offices. It’s because he tenderly cares for his parrot bird at home like that. Just like that faculty instructor, God notices the birds and knows us.
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. Matthew 10:29-31
Unchained Melody (love theme from Ghost)
Whoa! My love, my darling,
I hunger for your touch,
Alone. Lonely time.
And time goes by, so slowly,
And time can do so much,
Are you still mine?
I need your love.
I need your love.
God speed your love to me.
Lonely rivers flow to the sea, to the sea,
To the open arms of the sea.
Lonely rivers sigh, wait for me, wait for me,
I'll be coming home, wait for me.
Whoa! My love, my darling,
I hunger, hunger!, for your love,
For love. Lonely time.
And time goes by, so slowly,
And time can do so much,
Are you still mine?
I need your love.
I need your love.
God speed your love to me.
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