David Wilkerson's Vision: There's No Business Like the Porn Business...Stuck Up A Creek Without A Paddle?

How Many Women Does It Take to Satisfy A Man’s Eyes?

Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied…Proverbs 27:20

Many Christians have read David Wilkerson’s book, The Cross and the Switchblade.  He wrote another book called, The Vision.  He said that God gave him a vision about how sinful the world was going to get.  That people would be able to watch porn movies in their homes. This was years before there was cable TV and video cassettes.  Pornography is a billion dollar industry.  There are several problems with pornography.  One is no matter how much most women exercise, and let’s say we hit the tanning beds on a regular basis and risk skin cancer, very few of us are going to look like air brushed models.  Next, is do you really think those models or someone with that type of body will be good faithful partners in your life day and day out?  Why would they not run off with someone else who comes along that has more money or more prestige?  You open yourself up for a spirit of discontent in not being satisfied with your own wife’s body, and possibly a good future satisfying relationship with one woman. 

I’ve heard some younger men talk about how they don’t want to settle down with just one woman, because they consider it boring to have sex with one woman.  My question becomes how many women does it take to satisfy your lust before you settle down? 

Look at modern day examples: former “Wilt Chamberlain (August 21, 1936 – October 12, 1999) was an American professional NBA basketball player for the Philadelphia/San Francisco Warriors, the Philadelphia 76ers and the Los Angeles Lakers; he also played for the Harlem Globetrotters prior to playing in the NBA.  He was a lifelong bachelor and became notorious for his claim to having had sex with over 20,000 women.” My understanding at the end of his life, he said that he would have traded it all for one woman to stay intimate with for a lifetime.

“Charlie Sheen slept with a lot of women, "Two and a Half Men." The sitcom star lands on Maxim magazine's Top 10 "Living Sex Legends" list having allegedly done the deed with 5,000 women.   Bill Wyman (Rolling Stones bassist) - 1,000; Earvin (Magic) Johnson (basketball star) - 1,000; Lemmy Kilmister (Motorhead frontman) - 1,200; Jack Nicholson (actor) - 2,000; Ilie Nastase (tennis star) - 2,500; Engelbert Humperdinck (singer) - 3,000; Julio Iglesias (singer) - 3,000; Gene Simmons (Kiss frontman) - 4,600; Umberto Billo (Venetian hotel porter) - 8,000” and Tiger Woods unfaithfulness to his wife came out in recent scandals.

Hard to believe these men brag about these encounters.  Do they carry a counter with them or punch in on a counter every time they have sex?  Is that a Geiger counter in that they are radioactive by now?  The lower a person’s list --the better the prospect of finding a penguin in life!  Many men who are cheaters tend to over compensate their lack of self-esteem issues with many women.  A man who is highly self-confident is usually very happy with focusing on one woman to gain her affection and please her.

God's plan was one woman/one man.

Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? Matthew 19:4-5

I used the example of bunny rabbits that like to multiply and hop around.  This is quite a lot of hopping around.  Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines.  Just calculate 365 days in a year if he had sex all those days many of those wives would have not been very satisfied. The wives led Solomon’s heart away from the Lord.  Solomon may have been the wisest man in his day, but not the wisest when it came to his taste in the women that he decided to be with.

Now King Solomon loved many foreign women, along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women, from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the people of Israel, "You shall not enter into marriage with them, neither shall they with you, for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods."

So Solomon did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and did not wholly follow the Lord, as David his father had done.. 1 King 11:1-7

So the Lord said to Solomon, "Since this is your attitude and you have not kept my covenant and my decrees, which I commanded you, I will most certainly tear the kingdom away from you and give it to one of your subordinates. Nevertheless I will not do it in your days, for the sake of your father David; I will tear it out of the hand of your son. 1 Kings 11:11-12

Note: I guess Joel Osteen is right according to the passage above he can reap benefits, because of his dad John Osteen like Solomon did from his father David.

If you decide to watch sex acts of other individuals, I believe this opens a person up to a spirit of lust, being insatiable, or never satisfied.  I’ve been out where women would open their shirts, and flash their breasts to men when they had too much alcohol, and I believe this can be an evil spirit.  Men pay women or give them a beer to do this at the 500-mile race coming up here in Indianapolis this month.  What do I base this on?  The man who was naked that Jesus casted evil spirits out of.  When Jesus casted the evil spirits out he was then clothed, and in his right mind.  Stripping the clothes off in public, streaking, or mooning people, may seem cool in some people’s mind, but consider there could be some things you are giving into that may enter your life that are not so cool.  Those are spirits that “drive” a person to do things and then that person has no peace of mind in their life. I know several people like this.  Every time you see them they “have to have” a beer in their hands. They are driven by alcoholism. These people listed above most likely are being driven by a spirit of sexual lust.

and the people went out to see what had happened. When they came to Jesus, they found the man from whom the demons had gone out, sitting at Jesus feet, dressed and in his right mind; and they were afraid. Luke 8:35

There are “occupational” hazards or dirty jobs. I worked for several jobs in the past when I was young as a temp employee where other people were handling dangerous chemicals so they had occupational hazards in that field, which means they possibly will lead a short life on earth.  Working around sewers is a dirty job.  The occupational hazard of Mary Magdalene in being a prostitute including the added trouble of seven demons in her life:  and also some women who had been cured of evil spirits and diseases: Mary (called Magdalene) from whom seven demons had come out; Luke 8:2

Mary Magdalene was an avid follower of Jesus after she was delivered from these evil spirits.

From a male friend on this topic:

"Several years ago, when I worked downtown for the State of Indiana, I rode the bus.  I got off by the Capital Building at Market Street.  I would walk a few blocks and pass a magazine/book store.  One day I was out for lunch and I was looking for a particular magazine and walked over there.  There was a crowd of men there to see a woman.  She was signing things.  I asked who it was and was told it was a Playboy Playmate.  She was signing the centerfold for guys.  I glanced at the centerfold as I walked by one of the guys and then looked up at the woman.  It was surprising how different she looked in person.  She didn't look that great in person.  I said something to someone about it later, and they told me that Playboy photographers choose lighting and angles very carefully to make the woman look better.  The pictures are also "airbrushed" to give them a softer look. In other words, it's a total fantasy.  I have seen articles on-line that have a series of pictures of famous actresses who are considered hot and beautiful.  In one picture they are all dolled up with make-up and the next picture is the same woman that someone took when the woman was going about town without makeup and maybe even dressed casually.  They almost always look very plain...like any ordinary looking woman I might see on the street."

"The Playboy philosophy is completely anti-marriage.  I worked with a woman who got her husband a subscription to Playboy as a Christmas present.  I asked her why would she want him to look at other women naked?  Wouldn't he compare her to the models?  I told her I thought it would damage their marriage.  She didn't seem to think it was a big deal. I thought about it for a while and realized that if guys have sex with several women and then get married, they would be bored with having sex with only one woman after a while, because they had trained themselves to want to enjoy the thrill of having sex with new women."

My husband never had Playboy magazines.  He made a joke to me that he did not need them since I had those regular Victoria Secret catalogs in the mail.

No Loaded Guns Please

Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:18
Has not [the Lord] made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.  Malachi 2:15

I worked for a person who was married a while ago who was on a City Council in politics, and with the downfall of extramarital affairs by so many politicians he said, "Why did men have their brains in their pants?"  I don’t know, but hopefully their wives did not let them go to work or anywhere with a loaded gun.   I know several Christian people who got stuck in relationships with men or women who did not like sex.  This is not rejoicing in the wife or husband of your youth like the above scripture.  I just spoke to a widow who recently lost her husband to cancer, and after she married her husband he would never sleep with her in the four years they were married. 

  

People focus on David who committed adultery with Bathsheba, because he was King and back then women were more like cattle or possessions.  Nathan compared Bathsheba to a little lamb. Why was Bathsheba without child?   Maybe if she was running around taking care of a little baby, her body would have not been so great to lust after. I don't think she would have been quite as desirable with a baby.  Why was David not out with his army?  David was in the wrong place at the wrong time.  Most people caught up in adultery will be at the wrong place and at the wrong time.

I guess, I don’t appreciate “male bonding,” because if my husband came back from the war like Bathsheba's husband after being gone several months, and refused to sleep with me, I would have been perturbed.  I know in the wedding vows it says "forsaking all others."  There were times my husband liked to go snow mobiling or skiing in Colorado with his work friends, and it was always during my birthday, but he had my permission to do that.  Those of us women who had husbands in our past that refused to sleep with us understand what it’s like being desirable by other men, and then having the one we love and want to please refuse our advances.  It's because we did not believe in divorce. 

We were deprived by a spouse.  In not believing in divorce, we resigned ourselves to staying faithful although our needs were not met, since we did not see any out for leaving a person like this.  It’s down right sinning against your marriage partner by denying them sex, and a spouse can cause that person to sin and go outside the marriage to get their needs met.  Some of this becomes a control issue as far as using sex as a weapon to get their way.  If a person refuses to meet your sexual needs, usually something else will decline in the marriage eventually.  I look at it that one sin of your partner leads to another sin by your partner.  I know several people who stayed faithful in marriage, although their partner refused to have sex with them either completely or most of the time, and something else caused the marriage to end.  God's word says that our body belongs to our partner, not ourself.

The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Cor. 7:4-5

Later in life, my mother stayed faithful to my father, because they had more invested in the relationship than just sex (before Viagra).  They had time in the relationship, enjoyed each other's companionship and had children together. If a married partner chooses not to sleep with you, and they won’t go for therapy in your youth, it’s a stumbling block for those who have a healthy sex drive.  I know a person who spent $10K on sex counseling trying to get his wife to sleep with him.  Part of the problem was there were emotional issues related to the death of a child that only God can heal in that woman's life. The person would not change and no progess was made in counseling.  They were not seeking Jesus to heal their heart and marriage, they were only seeking a sex therapist.  The Holy Spirit is the great counselor.

Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain Psalm 127:1
For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6

Some problems don’t get healed, because people don’t turn their problems over to the Lord. You can spend $100K on counseling, and the marriage still will not work if you hold on to bad attitudes about your spouse.  Judas kept his love of money spirit.  When Jesus saw a man lying by a pool of water sick for many years, Jesus asked “would you be made whole.”  Some people don’t want to be made whole. They refuse to seek to please their mate, and only focus on what the other person needs to be doing.  "You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink."

But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world--how he can please his wife and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world--how she can please her husband.—1 Cor. 7:33-34

When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, "Do you want to get well?" John 5:6

Are You Stuck Up A Creek Without A Paddle? Who Cares What Size the Paddle Is?

Men come in all sizes and shapes.  For many woman, the size of the paddle seems to be a big deal.  One of the top plastic surgeries is penis enlargement.  Next, is breast enlargement of women.  God knows when we are up the creek without the paddle right?  I mean if I’m in a boat with no paddle, and there on these mosquitoes tormenting me at times buzzing around my head.  Sometimes it’s the words people say or the thoughts of the enemy.  When a person rescues me from being up the creek, I would consider that I don’t care what size the paddle is as long as I can use the paddle as often as I want, but that is a personal preference of mine.  Oversized paddles are sometimes harder to row with.

David compared thoughts of the enemy to bees: They swarmed around me like bees, but they died out as quickly as burning thorns; in the name of the LORD I cut them off. Psalm 118:2

God may have you fast certain things in life including food for a period of time.  Whatever we fast in life, consider the greater good as far as we are giving those things up for the kingdom of God.  I consider right now that being single is a fast for me.  It’s a fast from a good marriage/good relationship, sex and companionship.   How I choose to handle that fast is the key to walking in victory in my life. I don’t have to fall into traps of the world as far as friends with benefits and sex/living together outside of a marriage commitment.  It talks about 100 fold return now in this life whatever we sacrifice for the gospel.   Putting God first over sinning for a season for the gospel.  I know what my will is.  I gave up my will a long time ago in making Jesus the Lord of my life.

He chose to be mistreated along with the people of God rather than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a short time. Hebrews 11:25

I tell you the truth," Jesus replied, "no one who has left home or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or fields for me and the gospel But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life. Mark 10:29-30

I’ve not always been good about controlling my mind.   I’ve sinned several times in this area since I’ve been a single woman now.  After I lost my husband, I had a video camera that went around and around in my mind and it’s called a good relationship for over 14 years.  Eventually, I had to give the camera over to God, because it got transferred to other single men in my life. Some people may not understand this video camera analogy, but it was there and at times, I used that video camera of my past in my mind.  Better to give over the video camera to God before thoughts turn into actions.

My husband and I used to watch a lot of Science Fiction television shows, and I could never figure out why we had such a great sex life, because those are not romance movies.  Now, I realize that it was those commercials for male enhancement products and K-Y jelly products.  They were annoying, but those subliminal messages were going into our brains from the Spike and Science Fiction channels.  I could handle that as a married couple, but as a single woman trying to walk free from sensual desires, I can't listen to that.   Abstinence to me is I can’t feed the fleshly mind.  Whatever you sow in your life, you are going to reap it.  It’s called “feeding the fleshy” man. 

The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Galatians 6:8

I’m not looking at Jesus who is the author and finisher of my faith if I’m looking at pornography so I limit the input of sexual content, which included cutting off most of television.  For me one of the keys in walking free from the dictates of my flesh is to set my mind on things above not on things of this world.  Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2

In Bible days, bringing a woman into your tent was marriage. In today’s society, it’s best to follow the laws of the land.  There is common law marriage which is usually seven years.   God does not fall off the throne whatever sin we get ourselves into. There are consequences for sin which we saw in David and Samson’s life.  We won’t get swallowed up by the earth or bit by snakes like we saw in the movie Ten Commandments with Charlton Hesston since we are under grace, but there are “other” snakes out there which can include AIDS, STD’s, and the Herpes Simplex Virus.  Nor should we put Christ to the test, as some of them did and then died from snakebite, 1 Cor. 10:9

I’ve seen many women hurt I’ve known at my work places who were in 2, 5 or 7-year relationships that never went anywhere as far as a marriage commitment and give up and decide to break up with a person. The sad part about this is that you lose a piece of your soul every time you have sex with a person.  I know that some people can shut down their feelings in having a sex, but if you are in a continual relationship with someone in sex, most likely you start becoming more and more one soul.  Then when you break up because you never really made a commitment to put that person above your own needs, than that person loses part of their soul to that other person.  Love does not demand its own way/seeks not its own (1 Cor. 13:5) There is a chemical that is released in your brain when you have sex with someone.  

A popular saying today is having a friend with benefits.  I believe most women can only separate emotions from the sexual drive for so long.  Only a handful of women I have met act like some men where they don’t want more to a relationship than just icing.  If I eat icing from a cake and don’t have the whole cake, it becomes too sweet after a while.  Usually women want to eat a piece of cake with icing on top.  

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4

Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." 1 Cor. 6:15-16

A man will want to commit to you simply because of the way you make him feel.  If he believes that his life will be better with you in it, than without you, he will want to commit to you. But if he's unsure about the future of your relationship, because of some lingering doubts in his mind, based on what's happening or not happening in your relationship, then you're already fighting an uphill battle.  The more I got to know my husband in dating the more we liked each other.  The more we dated, the less doubts we had about each other.   Even in marriage, when I would waiver about step-children issues, my husband was fully committed to me.  That is a wonderful man to have one who is a not a double-minded man when it comes to dating and a marriage commitment.  That is truly "a gift from God."

A person who has doubts is thinking about two different things at the same time and can't make up his mind about anything. James 1:8

Many promises in the Bible are conditional.  If we seek we will find, if we knock it will be opened, if we ask we will receive, and we are to choose life not death. The Bible talks about finding a wife, so that means that men will be seeking.  I let my husband take the lead in chasing me, and that worked out best.  I know our society has changed some on who chases whom, but I'm still a very traditional person.  I do believe that movie, "He's Just Not Into You."  Men go out of their way, when they are interested in you.

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22

We don't have to depend on our own resources to find a person.  The example of how the Lord helped the servant of Abraham find a wife is for us.  Also, the example of how the widow Ruth and Boaz got together.  As a co-laborer with God, He is in the process of seeking, knocking, asking and finding with us.  God knows when we are stuck "up the creek without a paddle." I could consider this is a conspiracy of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit that someone like me who has a great sex drive would be single again after being in a satisfying marriage, but the Lord showed me that if I get mad at him for my predicament it's like how I used to get mad at my dog for growling at me when I came near his food dish.  I also knew dogs that would bite me when I fed them.  The Lord said if I get mad that He allowed my spouse to die young, than I'm biting the hand that feeds me. 

God is our source and He supplies all our needs according to His riches in glory, not according to this world's economy, not according to our mind's thinking, not according to what we see, and His ways are not our ways.