Sow One’s Wild Oats in Life Like Whitney Houston?

I like this quote in the movie, “Sweet Home Alabama” by the father (Mr. Smooter) to his daughter Melanie who could not make up her mind about two men she was in love with them both. Her father said, “You only have one ass darling, you can’t ride two horses, you have to make up your mind which one.” That is what God is saying to the church, “You have to make up your mind darling, you can’t put one foot in the world and one foot with Me, you got to make up your mind who is going to be your master.” (Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do. James 1:8)

Sowing wild oats: to do wild and foolish things in one's youth, if a young man sows his wild oats, he has a period of his life when he does a lot of exciting things and has a lot of sexual relationships.  He'd spent his twenties sowing his wild oats, but felt that it was time to settle down.

There have been periods of insanity in my life, and I will call them “sowing my wild oats.” As a young child, I was very close to the Lord and talked to him a lot. My parents had me in a Methodist Church and I was an altar girl. I remember praying every single night of my life, “Lord I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep, if I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take." I was raised around two Catholic families in the neighborhood and attended church camp with my girlfriends.

Early on, I was upset with my parents for lying to me about Santa Claus, and that is when I started wondering if God was real or if he was made up like Santa Claus.  Then when my sister became a Christian when I was 12 years old, I was very interested in becoming a Christian and following her bandwagon.  She would read the Bible to me. I went forward in a Baptist church to become a Christian and was water baptized, but it was out of the fear of going to hell so I never experienced a “relationship” with Christ. My non-relationship with the Lord (it was not real in my life and I could not understand the Bible) I decided to completely leave the church and believed that Christianity was not real from my lack of having a born-again experience. At that time, I quit saying that prayer at night.  I went from the time of 13-17 years of age I was sowing my wild oats. I pretty much was totally serving the devil as far as drugs, alcohol and a relationship with a man that brought me into eastern religion and the occult. At the time I really thought I could get closer to God through drugs, especially LSD. Later, I dropped the LSD and was mostly into smoking marijuana.

I remember at 16-years old thinking I knew more than my parents. One time I heard a minister say that he had a 16-year old son and an “angel of light appeared to him” to tell him he knew more than his dad. I think that really explains that period in my life. I got caught one night hitch-hiking at 16-years old and my dad gave me a lecture. One time I had this long-haired drug addict come over to sell me some marijuana and my brother thought I was dating him and gave me some lecture about the type of guys I was dating that looked like degenerates. He was not my boyfriend, he was my drug dealer.

And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. 2 Cor. 11:14

I find with God, I am a lot like that as far as many times in life, I think I know more than God. We find that with Job’s friends and Job in the Bible. I am not interested in your opinions. Pardon the expression, but “Opinions are like butt holes, everyone has one.”

Jesus was not interested in Peter’s opinion for him not to go to the cross and suffer, Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men." Matthew 16:23.

When Job’s friends offered their opinion to his troubles later God corrected Job’s friend’s opinions. Like above, I’m only interested in what the spirit of God has to say for me today not man.

I think this sowing the wild oats was good to the point that I became so cold towards God to the point that Satan ran me into the arms of Jesus. I saw some amazing things being that cold towards God is that the devil is real, there was no doubt in my mind, and when I realized that the devil was real and he had control of my life, than I wanted Jesus. I think the problem becomes when you sowed your wild oats which can be a bad relationship, drugs and alcohol, you hope you can come out with your soul in the process. I’m glad I sowed them early, because I find many times people I meet in life, never come out of that phase until the phase has destroyed them and they are so addicted or “chained” they can’t break free from those demons.

I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm--neither hot nor cold--I am about to spit you out of my mouth. Rev. 3:15-16

So you have people like Whitney Houston and your soul is so entrenched in sin, the roots can go down so deep in your soul, how do you come out? What happens is your spirit is saved, but not your soul. God wants body, soul and spirit saved. (May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Thess. 5:23)

As a Christian, I would say there have been two other periods of insanity of my life and that was going through my second divorce right before I met my husband, and then four years ago when he died. For the first six months, I was in shock from his sudden heart attack and woke up every morning pinching myself hoping it was just a bad dream.  By six months after my husband died, I had the thought I should go sell myself on a street corner. I’m not a prostitute and I have never been, let alone the health risks, but it was a wild fury of the grief going away and then the extreme loneliness that set in after being married for almost 15 years. I had a divorced friend tell me that they she drove her car off the road into a ditch she was so distraught over the breakup of her long marriage. I can remember the strife in my mind going through a divorce and a bad relationship. My marriage to my husband, we stayed out of strife.

·     So where does a thought like that come from? Some would say the devil, but let’s dig deeper and like the game “Clue” to see if there is another way the thought could have been planted? I was flipping through the television channels recently and checked out a sitcom, “How I Met Your Mother” and the episode was about a woman who had not had sexual relationships with a man for five years due to the hurt she went through from a divorce. The comment from a married woman on the sitcom to this girl’s boyfriend was “If I had not had sex in five years, I would be selling myself on a street corner.” I think it’s interesting that the very thought I had was mentioned on a sitcom/the television air ways that Satan controls as the god of this world.

Satan is the principality of the air. (Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: Ephesians 2:2)

My guess the thought was first planted from television originally. I watched Peyton Place and many different soap operas with my mother up through my teenage years. That is why I wrote that article on a spouse gives us accountability, because I am person like Whitney Houston who can easily be entrapped in sowing wild oats as a single Christian. I could watch television and movies with sex in them as a married woman, but not as a single person.

There are certain habits God took out of my life as newborn Christian, and first it was marijuana. Marijuana totally changed my personality and I have a very high achievement drive in my life, but it may me lethargic. That is why I stayed off of anti-depressants when I lost my husband because I was concerned that those would make me lethargic. Marijuana took away my initiative to do well in high school. I don’t tolerate alcohol very well it makes me sick so that keeps me away from being addicted to it. I gave up cigarettes.

I believe the highest addiction in my life is sexual addiction. Usually sex addicts get in bad relationships so I have to be careful because I’m naturally attracted to the wrong type of guy. You can abstain from sex, but like an alcoholic, still have an addiction. I can look at the bad relationships I have been in, and know if there is chemistry I’m going to go for the wrong guy. My husband did not kiss well and he was not affectionate. He improved over time, so I don’t base a relationship on chemistry, but I look for physical attraction, I was attracted to him. I can understand a person like Whitney Houston, because I have to fight many of the same demons myself or have fought those in the past.

Rescue others by snatching them from the flames of judgment. Show mercy to still others, but do so with great caution, hating the sins that contaminate their lives. Jude 1:23

Street preaching and jail ministry has been tops in my life for helping people with sexual, drug and alcohol addiction, because I came out of the pit myself. Once you come out of the pit, than the enemy tries to get you to return to the lifestyle, and I find he tries to drag me down.

·    He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. Psalm 40:2

Right before my husband passed away, I had signed up for the women’s prison ministry. He had a heart attack and so did the volunteer coordinator have a heart attack and left four little children at age 42 years old. My youngest daughter was a senior in high school when my husband died. They had no volunteer coordinator for one year after that since I kept calling to check on that ministry. The Lord showed me when you go behind enemy lines (prison or street ministry) you are subject to casualties in life. Anything I own or people in my life are subject to attacks by the enemy. The Bible says precious (or costly) in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints.” In other words, when a soldier loses his life especially God’s soldier it’s very costly.  Ask any widow and she will tell you “how costly” it was in losing her spouse. I know my manager had a son in Navy seals and he was in a car accident in another country. They flew him into a base in Washington D.C. for recovery. Losing my spouse was like losing a Navy Seal officer. It’s knocked me out of ministry I used to do.

·    Paul said, “For we wanted to come to you--certainly I, Paul, did, again and again--but Satan stopped us.” 1 Thess. 2:18

     Like Phil Collins in his song, “I’m an easy lover.” I become the way like Phil Collins talks about in divorce and again almost in being widowed. A little self-deception in getting in a bad relationship for a short period of time (2-3 months) in both of my cases cured me of being an easy lover with a man and getting used. I get distracted in life with a variety of things that life has to offer and tend to lean towards the lust of my flesh many times in my life. I want the easy road in life like Jesus talked about and go on the broad way.  I don’t want to walk the narrow path. ("Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. Matthew 7:13)

If you are liberal Christian and you are sleeping around with various women, what about this scripture: Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Galatians 5:24

I consider there is a reason that a commandment “thou shalt not commit adultery,” which involves other mates, but fornication was not a commandment, Paul said to “avoid fornication.”

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Cor. 7:2

I find its God restraining force (His spirit) in my life that changes you on the inside not to use people for your own needs to be met. And just because that is the way “I am” than I consider the great “I am” of God who is over my life. I already had been on this single roller coaster several times before.

God knows that many Christians are going to give into the lusts of the flesh. I look at it is how much do you want to yield to the spirit of God in your life? It’s like a roundabout with your car where some people don’t yield and they don’t stop. Some people don’t yield to the spirit of God. How many cars do you have to sleep with that are lemons before we get it right and consider if you don’t yield or stop at that roundabout you can run into another car. Can we trust in the spirit of God to lead and guide us in our intimate relationships? We fall down and make mistakes at life, but hopefully like riding a bike, we eventually get it right on down the road and learn to ride the bike (learn to yield to the spirit of God in our life.)

because those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God Romans 8:14
But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law. Galatians 5:18

I look for God's saving grace in my life to save me from loss and despair. I know there is nothing else in life that can really "save our soul" and set us free. Jesus said you will know the truth and the truth will set you free." John 8:32

What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul? Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul? Matthew 16:26

Phil Collins: Easy Loverhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1kDmnHyOBg