There are not many people on the planet that I trust more than I can throw them. Jesus warned about this and so did Paul. Paul said, “All seek their own not the things of Jesus Christ, Philip. 2:21” Jesus said, “Do not cast your pearls before swine least they turn and rend you.
Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces. Mathew 7:6
At single groups if you are female, you usually deal with more jealousy from women, and if you are a man there is jealousy among men. I know because I’ve spoken to men and women who get jealous. Many times I’ve seen women gang up on other women, and it’s to run off some of the competition. It’s rather a cat type behavior. I had two female cats and one cat was very passive so the other female cat was always picking a fight, marking her territory. I see this behavior at single’s groups at times.
In a relationship with a man/woman, our hearts can be very tender (delicate) at times so we have to determine if a man/woman is worthy of our heart. (Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23)
I heard my minister talk about Christians he had helped that turned against him. It’s very hard when a Christian offends you, because you expect higher standards (more love) so the best thing to do is to determine if the relationship is worth salvaging or to let the relationship go. I think of the example of Jonathon. Jonathon had a pure heart, but because his father Saul was in disobedience, his association with his father cost him in his life. I try to avoid friendships if I consider that a person is filled with bitterness, resentment, negatism, or they associate with people that drag them down (unhealthy relationships), because it will drag me down trying to encourage a woman in an abusive relationship if she continues in it.
Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." 1Cor. 15:33
One thing I was warned about in single groups from an older widow woman is bitterness against an ex-husband or wife may end up bothering me. At first, I just ignored it and all seven times a man would knock his ex-wife, I just encouraged him that not all women are like that. It’s the same encouragement a woman gave me in coming out of being hurt by an ex-spouse is that she told me that many men had been hurt too where I did not cop an attitude that all men are users.
When I would come back from single groups if some had more bitterness than others I started praying, and I heard in my spirit, “If you don’t want a bitter fish, than quit fishing in bitter ponds.” So I started seeking out more single groups that did not have that problem.
I was listening to a televangelist recently, and he said that one of the first items on the agenda for the children of Israel is that Moses brought them to bitter waters to deal with their bitterness. Moses used his rod to heal their bitterness which I believe is God’s word. What I find when you share God’s word is you get two reactions. You get the reaction where people are pricked in their heart to change or they get more stubborn and rebellious like Saul. The scripture the Lord gave me to share with others was: See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. Hebrews 12:15
When they came to Marah, they could not drink its water because it was bitter. (That is why the place is called Marah.) So the people grumbled against Moses, saying, "What are we to drink?" Then Moses cried out to the Lord, and the Lord showed him a piece of wood. He threw it into the water, and the water became sweet. There the Lord made a decree and a law for them, and there he tested them. Exodus 15:23-25
When you share the “pricking” is if a person is willing to let go of their bitterness or not:
Their hearts are callous and unfeeling, but I delight in your law. Psalm 119:70
Now when they heard this, they were pricked (cut) in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do? Acts 2:37
One way to combat bitterness and jealous behavior is to pray regularly for unity.
A big difficulty or trial in my life is the lack of unity I have with a person in life. It was 15 years of being like-minded with a Christian man in purpose. The purpose was serving the Lord, serving each other, serving our family, serving at work and serving the community. When I go out in public, it's a continual reminder that I lost my prayer partner and that “oneness” in life.
then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose Philip 2:2
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Romans 12:16
I have found that as the pendulum swings, I have to come back to my married friends so I’m changing direction and have invited more of my married couple friends boating this coming summer. I want to get back into being more balanced with the rest of the body of Christ. I’ve been in this torture chamber in watching couples who have what I used to have, but I’m trying to come out of the torture chamber. The most important in my life is to find a “unified” body.
So my prayer now at night regularly like Jesus prayed is “God make us one.” I’m in continual prayer for that in my life. Find unity with a new partner and unity with the Body of Christ. Notice it says “make every effort”
…… Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:3
I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: John 17:22
And not only for that nation, but to bring together and unite all the children of God scattered around the world. John 11:22
A Christian man that knows “love keeps no record of wrongs 1 Cor. 13:5” or that we are to forgive 70 times 70 than that gives him the excuse to walk on you.
When you are dating a man or getting to know a man you build history with him. The history is the unselfish acts of kindness a man does. It’s like the man is a boy scout in the relationship. Boaz in the Bible was a boy scout. If you continually break your word (cancel dates or get-togethers) than the history you are telling a woman is that she can’t trust you. I find this a “common” problem or a common temptation with singles. I can see why they are single, because they won’t commit to anything. You can look at certain commitments is a guy faithful to his job, faithful to attending church, faithful to his kids, faithful to take care of an animal, faithful to study God’s word, or faithful with his money (not stingy).
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
He who is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward him for what he has done.” (Proverbs 19:17)
Those are all good signs and then there is faithful to keep his word. We know that God is faithful to his word, but I heard a while back that if we don’t keep our word to others, we won’t ever believe that God will keep his word to us. For some reason our word and God’s word gets intertwined.
God is not a man, that he should lie, nor a son of man, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill? Numbers 23:19
if we are faithless, he will remain faithful, for he cannot disown himself. 2 Timothy 2:13
My son said he is not voting for a woman president, because his sister changes her mind so often: (He who is the Glory of Israel does not lie or change his mind; for he is not a man, that he should change his mind." 1 Samuel 15:29)
Two Hearts: Phil Collins
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bQK6CGqGleI
Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces. Mathew 7:6
At single groups if you are female, you usually deal with more jealousy from women, and if you are a man there is jealousy among men. I know because I’ve spoken to men and women who get jealous. Many times I’ve seen women gang up on other women, and it’s to run off some of the competition. It’s rather a cat type behavior. I had two female cats and one cat was very passive so the other female cat was always picking a fight, marking her territory. I see this behavior at single’s groups at times.
In a relationship with a man/woman, our hearts can be very tender (delicate) at times so we have to determine if a man/woman is worthy of our heart. (Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23)
I heard my minister talk about Christians he had helped that turned against him. It’s very hard when a Christian offends you, because you expect higher standards (more love) so the best thing to do is to determine if the relationship is worth salvaging or to let the relationship go. I think of the example of Jonathon. Jonathon had a pure heart, but because his father Saul was in disobedience, his association with his father cost him in his life. I try to avoid friendships if I consider that a person is filled with bitterness, resentment, negatism, or they associate with people that drag them down (unhealthy relationships), because it will drag me down trying to encourage a woman in an abusive relationship if she continues in it.
Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." 1Cor. 15:33
One thing I was warned about in single groups from an older widow woman is bitterness against an ex-husband or wife may end up bothering me. At first, I just ignored it and all seven times a man would knock his ex-wife, I just encouraged him that not all women are like that. It’s the same encouragement a woman gave me in coming out of being hurt by an ex-spouse is that she told me that many men had been hurt too where I did not cop an attitude that all men are users.
When I would come back from single groups if some had more bitterness than others I started praying, and I heard in my spirit, “If you don’t want a bitter fish, than quit fishing in bitter ponds.” So I started seeking out more single groups that did not have that problem.
I was listening to a televangelist recently, and he said that one of the first items on the agenda for the children of Israel is that Moses brought them to bitter waters to deal with their bitterness. Moses used his rod to heal their bitterness which I believe is God’s word. What I find when you share God’s word is you get two reactions. You get the reaction where people are pricked in their heart to change or they get more stubborn and rebellious like Saul. The scripture the Lord gave me to share with others was: See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. Hebrews 12:15
When they came to Marah, they could not drink its water because it was bitter. (That is why the place is called Marah.) So the people grumbled against Moses, saying, "What are we to drink?" Then Moses cried out to the Lord, and the Lord showed him a piece of wood. He threw it into the water, and the water became sweet. There the Lord made a decree and a law for them, and there he tested them. Exodus 15:23-25
When you share the “pricking” is if a person is willing to let go of their bitterness or not:
Their hearts are callous and unfeeling, but I delight in your law. Psalm 119:70
Now when they heard this, they were pricked (cut) in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do? Acts 2:37
One way to combat bitterness and jealous behavior is to pray regularly for unity.
A big difficulty or trial in my life is the lack of unity I have with a person in life. It was 15 years of being like-minded with a Christian man in purpose. The purpose was serving the Lord, serving each other, serving our family, serving at work and serving the community. When I go out in public, it's a continual reminder that I lost my prayer partner and that “oneness” in life.
then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose Philip 2:2
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Romans 12:16
I have found that as the pendulum swings, I have to come back to my married friends so I’m changing direction and have invited more of my married couple friends boating this coming summer. I want to get back into being more balanced with the rest of the body of Christ. I’ve been in this torture chamber in watching couples who have what I used to have, but I’m trying to come out of the torture chamber. The most important in my life is to find a “unified” body.
So my prayer now at night regularly like Jesus prayed is “God make us one.” I’m in continual prayer for that in my life. Find unity with a new partner and unity with the Body of Christ. Notice it says “make every effort”
…… Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:3
I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: John 17:22
And not only for that nation, but to bring together and unite all the children of God scattered around the world. John 11:22
A Christian man that knows “love keeps no record of wrongs 1 Cor. 13:5” or that we are to forgive 70 times 70 than that gives him the excuse to walk on you.
When you are dating a man or getting to know a man you build history with him. The history is the unselfish acts of kindness a man does. It’s like the man is a boy scout in the relationship. Boaz in the Bible was a boy scout. If you continually break your word (cancel dates or get-togethers) than the history you are telling a woman is that she can’t trust you. I find this a “common” problem or a common temptation with singles. I can see why they are single, because they won’t commit to anything. You can look at certain commitments is a guy faithful to his job, faithful to attending church, faithful to his kids, faithful to take care of an animal, faithful to study God’s word, or faithful with his money (not stingy).
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
He who is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward him for what he has done.” (Proverbs 19:17)
Those are all good signs and then there is faithful to keep his word. We know that God is faithful to his word, but I heard a while back that if we don’t keep our word to others, we won’t ever believe that God will keep his word to us. For some reason our word and God’s word gets intertwined.
God is not a man, that he should lie, nor a son of man, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill? Numbers 23:19
if we are faithless, he will remain faithful, for he cannot disown himself. 2 Timothy 2:13
My son said he is not voting for a woman president, because his sister changes her mind so often: (He who is the Glory of Israel does not lie or change his mind; for he is not a man, that he should change his mind." 1 Samuel 15:29)
Two Hearts: Phil Collins
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bQK6CGqGleI
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