One reason I believe that my husband and I had a successful/loving relationship is that we prayed for our ex-spouses many times. I counsel people coming out of divorce to bless and pray for your ex because many people have failed second marriages from taking the strife of their first marriage into the next one. The blessing of Abraham has come on the Gentiles which is that God will bless those who bless us and curse those who curse us.
He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit. Galatians 3:14
I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you." Genesis 12:3
As Jesus Christians we have taken it a step farther. We are no longer under the law of the “eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth,” but we are called to give blessings not to curse others. One reason I’m very adamant about people not talking about their ex-spouse in a negative light, is that it brings oppression on you and possibly that person. I can bad mouth my deceased husband he is protected with God. It only affects me. God would not allow the prophet Balaam to curse the children of Israel (spoke through a donkey), he ended up blessing them. Numbers 22:28-29 and 2 Peter 2:16 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. James 3:10
If you don’t like what a brother and sister in Christ is doing, better to pray for them than to “have them for dinner” and gossip about them. I always liked those television shows the Walton’s and Little House on the Prairie, they always had their town gossips and I find it’s the same way in the Body of Christ. The busybodies that have to know everyone’s business.
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts. Proverbs 18:8
We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies. 2 Thess. 3:11
For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, factions, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. 2 Cor. 12:20
I find this in dealing in relationships that many times my children try to drag me into the disputes they have with their loved ones, but it’s hard to be a mediator and I don’t want to take sides. It’s hard to be objective and it’s best to pray if people share relationship problems. I tend to take the side of a woman, because I am a woman, it’s hard to be objective. Even if I have a guy friend, 9 times out of 10, I’ll take the woman’s side. That is because women are always right….LOL I believe its okay to share your relationships problems with other women, but be sure to pray for the couple. Some relationship problems have to be taken to a professional counsel.
Like one who seizes a dog by the ears is a passer-by who meddles in a quarrel not his own. Proverbs 26:17
When I had problems with my husband in what he was allowing with his son in the home, he was willing to go with me to the pastor. I flat out told him my youngest daughter and I would move out, because what his son was doing could cause physical harm. He moved his son back in saying it was going to be six months, and it ended up being two years and when you have drugs and alcohol abuse with an adult in your house, I had viable concerns. I also found that professional counseling helped us through the difficult teenage years with raising step-children.
I can always tell when Satan is trying to get me to walk out of love sometimes it is very obvious as far as these “tests” in life. It says no man should say he is tested of God (James 1:13), because God does not do the tempting. Jesus prayed, “lead us not into temption” so we want to escape it. I was in construction one evening on 10th Street and it went down one lane at one point and I let a car in front of me, slowed down to let a car move over. A car behind me when it went to two lanes apparently got upset because he/she went in front of me and then slammed on the brakes, gave me the finger, then drove a little farther down the street, slammed on their brakes and gave me the finger again. I laughed and said, “God bless you.” A couple of years ago, I may have given them the finger back, but I’m constantly dealing with people filled with road rage at times.
Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. Luke 6:28
One night I had this dream that this woman was talking to me and in my dream it said, “You need to forgive your boss and in my dream said his name.” Everyone at my work was pretty angry at my former manager at the time for shorting us raises for five years. For his staff it was not based on performance, but it was based on what pool was available to go around the whole office, and some new hires got the money. The Lord did not want that bitterness dragging me down. So that very morning I prayed, “God, I forgive so and so.”
One time I was driving in my neighborhood and this guy was walking on the side of the street and his pants were falling down and I thought it my mind, “How despicable.” I heard in my spirit, “I’ve not called you to think that people are despicable," so every time I see someone that has their pants falling down or anyone that repulses me in some way, I say “God bless them.”
I had talked in my last blog about how I’m praying in the unity in the body of Christ like Jesus prayed that we would be one. I’ve asked God how do I overcome difficult people who are jealous in my life and don’t walk in love and he said to “bless them.” It’s very similar in the past on how I’ve overcome people I don’t like which is to “kill them with kindness” or love my enemies, it’s to bless those who persecute me.
He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit. Galatians 3:14
I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you." Genesis 12:3
As Jesus Christians we have taken it a step farther. We are no longer under the law of the “eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth,” but we are called to give blessings not to curse others. One reason I’m very adamant about people not talking about their ex-spouse in a negative light, is that it brings oppression on you and possibly that person. I can bad mouth my deceased husband he is protected with God. It only affects me. God would not allow the prophet Balaam to curse the children of Israel (spoke through a donkey), he ended up blessing them. Numbers 22:28-29 and 2 Peter 2:16 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. James 3:10
If you don’t like what a brother and sister in Christ is doing, better to pray for them than to “have them for dinner” and gossip about them. I always liked those television shows the Walton’s and Little House on the Prairie, they always had their town gossips and I find it’s the same way in the Body of Christ. The busybodies that have to know everyone’s business.
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts. Proverbs 18:8
We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies. 2 Thess. 3:11
For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, factions, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. 2 Cor. 12:20
I find this in dealing in relationships that many times my children try to drag me into the disputes they have with their loved ones, but it’s hard to be a mediator and I don’t want to take sides. It’s hard to be objective and it’s best to pray if people share relationship problems. I tend to take the side of a woman, because I am a woman, it’s hard to be objective. Even if I have a guy friend, 9 times out of 10, I’ll take the woman’s side. That is because women are always right….LOL I believe its okay to share your relationships problems with other women, but be sure to pray for the couple. Some relationship problems have to be taken to a professional counsel.
Like one who seizes a dog by the ears is a passer-by who meddles in a quarrel not his own. Proverbs 26:17
When I had problems with my husband in what he was allowing with his son in the home, he was willing to go with me to the pastor. I flat out told him my youngest daughter and I would move out, because what his son was doing could cause physical harm. He moved his son back in saying it was going to be six months, and it ended up being two years and when you have drugs and alcohol abuse with an adult in your house, I had viable concerns. I also found that professional counseling helped us through the difficult teenage years with raising step-children.
I can always tell when Satan is trying to get me to walk out of love sometimes it is very obvious as far as these “tests” in life. It says no man should say he is tested of God (James 1:13), because God does not do the tempting. Jesus prayed, “lead us not into temption” so we want to escape it. I was in construction one evening on 10th Street and it went down one lane at one point and I let a car in front of me, slowed down to let a car move over. A car behind me when it went to two lanes apparently got upset because he/she went in front of me and then slammed on the brakes, gave me the finger, then drove a little farther down the street, slammed on their brakes and gave me the finger again. I laughed and said, “God bless you.” A couple of years ago, I may have given them the finger back, but I’m constantly dealing with people filled with road rage at times.
Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. Luke 6:28
One night I had this dream that this woman was talking to me and in my dream it said, “You need to forgive your boss and in my dream said his name.” Everyone at my work was pretty angry at my former manager at the time for shorting us raises for five years. For his staff it was not based on performance, but it was based on what pool was available to go around the whole office, and some new hires got the money. The Lord did not want that bitterness dragging me down. So that very morning I prayed, “God, I forgive so and so.”
One time I was driving in my neighborhood and this guy was walking on the side of the street and his pants were falling down and I thought it my mind, “How despicable.” I heard in my spirit, “I’ve not called you to think that people are despicable," so every time I see someone that has their pants falling down or anyone that repulses me in some way, I say “God bless them.”
I had talked in my last blog about how I’m praying in the unity in the body of Christ like Jesus prayed that we would be one. I’ve asked God how do I overcome difficult people who are jealous in my life and don’t walk in love and he said to “bless them.” It’s very similar in the past on how I’ve overcome people I don’t like which is to “kill them with kindness” or love my enemies, it’s to bless those who persecute me.
Sometimes if I’m in the neighborhood of someone I don’t like, I drive by and bless them. Stephen even when he was stoned to death he asked that “this sin will not be put to their charge.” When he was being stoned it said that Jesus was standing to receive him into glory. Jesus sits at the right hand of God, but for Stephen’s case he was standing. So I want Jesus to be standing when I go into glory too.
But Stephen, full of the Holy Spirit, looked up to heaven and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing at the right hand of God." Acts 7:55
I’m blessing those who hurt, disappoint, betray and curse me. Probably you don’t get along with someone else because God wants you to pray for them. I’ve had people in my past I could not stand, and I found by the time I left a position at work, I had turned some of those people I did not like to be a good friend. Many of them were taking their frustrations in life out on others including yelling at their staff. I applied to work for some nursing managers once and I’m glad I did not get the position, because they ran off several assistants in that position. It’s because nurses get a lot of grief from doctors above them and then they take it out on their staff. Not all nurses, I’ve worked for nursing managers in the past, and it was not like that, but typically many men and women take their home or work frustrations on those below them. I don’t like to be people’s scapegoat for their frustrations. Jesus was the scapegoat (the goat that was driven outside the camp to bear our sins and grief). We don’t need to be anyone’s scapegoat for them to take their anger out on others.
Not everyone wants other people to be blessed, because they get jealous and envious of others. It’s a continual prayer of mine for God’s blessings on my friends, my enemies, my family and my life. I am wanting God’s goodness in their lives. I ask God’s mercy and goodness on others. It is the goodness of the Lord that leads us to repentance. Part of praying for revival for our country is humbling myself as God’s child and it is an outpouring of God’s mercy, grace, goodness on people, not his wrath:
I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Psalm 27:13
Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance? Romans 2:4
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