Secular humanism is in the church which is basically, you have to focus on yourself (be the right person) before you can find the right person. BOGUS! Jesus did not teach this, Jesus taught lay down your life, surrender self-will, deny yourself, give up your selfish ways. Focus on Him. You get your eyes on Jesus, it’s a lot easier loving yourself and loving others, because then you see that God loves us warts and all. People in successful relationships get over their spirit of perfectionism and love their husband/wife warts and all.
Then he said to the crowd, "If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me. Luke 9:23
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:2
If Jesus was to come to church today many church folk would not like him. They would find some fault like the Pharisees did, because they find fault now with others and/or they take their problems out on others. They did not like it that Jesus drank with publicans and sinners. If he came to an all-white church and he was black that would be a problem, if he came to an all-black church that would be a problem, if he had tattoos or piercings that would be a problem with some churches and especially his drinking wine would be a huge problem with many Christians. It’s because Jesus said when you have done it unto the “least of these” you have done it unto me. When we treat other Christians badly, we are treating Jesus badly. If we go visit the sick or go to a prison, go visit a widow, we are doing it as unto the Lord (Matthew 25:43-44)
He will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.' Matthew 25:45
I don’t know where people get that Jesus drank grape juice and that wine was not fermented in those days. Obviously if it says “not to get drunk on wine” they could get drunk on wine.
And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Ephesians 5:18
The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, 'Behold, a gluttonous man and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!' Yet wisdom is vindicated by her deeds." Matthew 11:19
The Lord said I need to lose my own self and lay my life down for God first, not others.
Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it Matthew 10:39
I found myself getting used by others at times. Many people take advantage of your good graces. What the problem is that we want a savior in life. We think we are going to find a savior in meeting a person who will meet all our needs/wants/desires and then when that person is not what we expected, we are disillusioned. I definitely went through my disillusionment in my first marriage.
Now I know that the Lord saves his anointed; he answers him from his holy heaven with the saving power of his right hand. Psalm 20:6
The Lord is the strength of his people, a fortress of salvation for his anointed one. Psalm 28:8
She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins." Matthew 1:21
There were many times I disappointed my husband and then many times I disappointed him (failed him) but he was not a huge disappointment in life to me.
When you are doing it “as unto the Lord” that is what the difference is and you know that God wants you to do it (leave the results to God). I had blogged in previous blog that I kept meeting my husband’s sexual needs (his planet Mars) and eventually he came over to my planet touch (Venus). Many men cannot separate sex from love and my husband was one of them.
Once you are Dorothy who landed in Oz and you just want to get back to the land of Pleasantville with color. I find it rather interesting that most people leave the land of Oz and you never see them again. It’s like “I’m out of Dodge folks, good riddens.” They never want to remember that single wilderness experience again. I’ve noticed married musicians won’t lead music for a single’s group. What I believe the problem is that single’s ministries are the step-children in the church. I raised two step children full-time from 13-years old and five-years old, and I don’t remember ever receiving a thank you in life from them. My own biological children were like that too for a while, but they have greatly improved as adults. When I complained to my son how I could not get much help from anyone at Christmas (from the family) and everyone just wanted to be waited on hand and foot after my husband died, my son said, “Mom you know family just take it for granted.” It was grevious because I felt overwhelmed and I used to have my husband Mike helped me so it was not a big deal back then. My son is right that many people take God and others for granted.
If a person takes you away from your family and friends, it’s not a good sign of a healthy relationship. Love does not “seek its own.” If you want to neglect your family and friends, just a word of warning, that when my husband passed away it was three divorced friends who came and sat with me after my husband passed away and then one married friend. We need the whole body of Christ which makes up single and married. I believe we belong to the “body of Christ” there is no division in the body of Christ as far as when I look at your body, I don’t see your arm laying off one place, your legs off another place – the eye saying I don’t belong on this face…..LOL
People have to get rid of the control/perfectionism spirit. My mother always said I was the neatest child growing up, my siblings were slobs. I married a slob and picked up after him and then when I had twin babies, I realized that I was so overwhelmed, I could not do it all anymore. Next, we separated and then I realized just how my life was out of control, that I could not fix my marriage. Same thing happened to my intelligent engineer husband who spent $10K on counseling. It’s very hard to accept a marriage failure. When you realize just how we “can’t” control our life, it has a way of breaking a control/perfectionist spirit over our lives. It’s a step in letting God gain control over our life.
Peter went back to fishing after Jesus died, but then Jesus asked Peter to feed his fish. The greatest gift we can give God is our wills, “not my will but thine be done.”
I tell you the truth, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go." John 21:18
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