Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23
Love is a choice, it's a free will decision. Physical attraction and comfort level plays a big role, but I can go out an adopt a 16-year old foster child and make a decision that I will love that teenager. Now that teenager may make it very difficult for me to love them, but it's still my choice and it's my choice to love that teenager unconditionally no matter what. It makes it a "whole" lot easier when it's a two-way street and that is what you want in a marriage relationship as far as a "blending" of two people together. In the past Bible days, and still in some countries they have arranged marriages.
E-harmony says to give a person at least five dates before you make up your mind on if you want to move towards a relationship. I 've had a lot of men friends I've dated, but they stayed in the friendship category, because there was not enough to move forward for more.
I worked very hard, like Jacob worked for Rachel to keep the romance burning in my life with my husband. It's like sports, I have to work at sports because it does not come naturally, I have to work at college to become an honor student because it did not come naturally as far as a high IQ, I had to work at affection and romance in marriage, because it does not come naturally as far as my parents were not affectionate. I wanted to become better.
I've worked very hard to maintain a walk with the Lord and Paul "praised" the Bereans for working hard in the Lord. Paul says it's not us that works harder, but grace that makes us work hard.
But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them--yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me. 1 Cor. 15:10
Now the Bereans were of more noble character than the Thessalonians, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true. Acts 17:11
I like to "fan the flame" in my walk with God like I fanned the flame to feel that my husband was the hottest man on the planet for 15 years. (For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 2 Cor. 1:6)
One of the things I heard when I went through a divorce is how you have to pray a person out of your heart. I did that with my current spouse as far as I said, "Lord I appreciate the great love I had for my husband, but I still feel bound to him. You said that in death, I am loosed from my husband, but I want to be with him in heaven." I asked the Lord to free from that soul tie. The Lord showed me that he wanted me to have a closer walk with him before I moved on, but he showed me something else, and I will cover that in another blog.
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 1 Cor. 7:39
I like the movie, "Dances With Wolves" it’s about a woman who was adopted by the Indians when her parents were killed and she married an Indian who died. She later met "Dances With Wolves" who was a Union soldier when she was grieving her husband. Her adopted father was an Indian medicine man and he came up to her and told her "It's time to put off your mourning." I've had God speak to me in the past when it came to divorce and he said, "You have suffered enough in this relationship.” I knew that was God’s clue to move on and quit holding on to false hope for a reconciliation of the family.
You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing. You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy, Psalm 30:11
When I Fall in Love:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vhJKgdzAJ9o
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