Monday, December 17, 2012

Becoming a Balcony Person and Encouraging a Person in the Death of a Child or Spouse/Part 1




To get to my destination in life at times I have to back my car in reverse down the driveway. I heard this one minister at E91 Christian Church said he got on a wrong road and had to back his RV up a mile down a winding mountain. It is not all forward motion. Grief is at times taking steps backwards. It says, "The steps of good man are ordered from the Lord and He delights in his way." Psalms 37:23.

We see the example of a good man who lost his life early which was Jonathon in the battle with his father Saul. There are going to be casualties in life. It says we are in a war. Ephesians 6 says we are to put on the “whole” armor of God, we need the whole armor on, and make intercession with all kinds of prayer for the saints. David talked about how the Lord “teaches” him war.

Blessed is Lord Jehovah who teaches my hands for war and my fingers for battle! Psalms 144:1
And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Ephesians 6:18

When it says “all kinds of prayers and requests.” That means in life I’m going to do all kinds of praying. I may pray a scripture over a person’s life, I may just cry out for a person, “God have mercy on that person,” I may pray, “God bless so and so” like Jesus said to bless those who persecute us. I may just pound down heaven’s gate until I get an answer. I’m not sure why heaven does not have a doorbell, but my doorbell went out and my daughter said she knocked on my door late one night, but I did not hear her and my room is above the door so I am going to knock hard on heaven’s door.

Jesus talked about persistence and the widow who kept coming to the unjust judge to get her request and also a neighbor who only got up to give someone bread in the middle of the night not because they are a friend, but because the person kept knocking and knocking on the door (their persistence.) I've had people call me at 3:00 a.m. that needed something, but I did not hear my cellphone. If I'm going to answer a 3:00 a.m. phone call they have to be a "very good friend" or keep calling me.

Then Jesus said that “men ought always to pray and not give up hope.” Luke 18:1

That is hard not to give up at hope at times when you watch someone go down the hill with cancer or sudden death as far as when we did not see the victory in another person’s battle, but I continue to pray and believe God for my own health and still go to battle for others. I know the ultimate war has already been won for me in heaven and that was when Jesus took on the chastisement of my peace and it says, “by his stripes I am healed.”

(But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed. Isaiah 53:5)

We have the example of how Daniel was a great man of prayer and it took him 21 days of perseverance to get his prayer request because an evil agent of Satan was holding back his prayer request. I have had several dreams about fighting with an evil man in my life. The last dream I had was about holding money in my right hand and an evil man stabbed me in the chest with a sword. I believe it was a number of attacks I have had financially. I had the Indian Creek elders pray for me to get good renters in my home because of the number of people that I interviewed, I did not have a “peace” about renting to.

Sometimes in life we call in reinforcements in this battle and that is what happened to the early church is after James was taken in prison and killed and Peter was taken to prison next the church got praying and Peter was supernaturally delivered by an angel in prison. We see that the church did not expect their prayer request to be heard, when a woman answered the door, she was surprised to see Peter.

Barnabas name meant "son of encouragement" Acts 4:36 so his ministry was to encourage others. For some of us our encouragement comes from our experiences in life in what we have gone through. Many people don't believe that a baby is baby until it's born, but I remember the two miscarriages I had and those were losses in my life.  Jeremiah and David talked about God knowing them even before they were born, because God sees in the future. We don't quite understand why a baby gets sick inside the womb and dies, but it's an attack of illness inside the womb instead of outside. My husband lost a baby to SIDS at six weeks old.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. Psalm 139:13
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." Jeremiah 1:5

"An idle mind is the devil's workshop." In working through grief it becomes very difficult as far as those times you had with your loved one. A widow who lost her husband who was in a home photography business said that I was very lucky that I worked a job outside my spouse. It was very hard for her to even get out of bed in the morning because she worked with him from home.

Look for ways to build new positive memories in life is one way to work through grief and I do my best to stay active. I miss every night with my spouse in seeing him and the weekends are the most difficult.  Distractions in life can be a good thing and at other times it can be a bad thing.  My daughter got off Facebook so she could fully concentrate on her studies for college, because it was too much of distraction.  Paul warned that getting married could be a distraction, but that everyone “has their own gift from God.”

We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies, Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the bread they eat. 2 Thess 3:12

The widow who I spoke to who had a hard time with working from home ended up starting a spousal loss group out of her home for E91 Christian Church.  I also found that hosting single socials and reaching out to other people rather than getting a second job helping me in a distraction from grief.  Staying busy helps.

One of the ways the enemy hits a lot of mostly divorced and widowed woman and men is the problem with celibacy while they are single.  It’s been a big problem in my life is having patience to wait for the right person.  I was married at the age of 21 years old and one of the reasons I wanted to get married was because my gift was not celibacy. I was able to save myself for marriage back then and I know it's because I had a good self-esteem to wait and I have a good self-esteem now, but I was not in a long-term relationship as an unbeliever.

It only took me 1 l/2 years from a divorce to meet my husband who is now deceased through a single’s ad, and I know my husband was “biting at the bit to get married” because he did not believe in sleeping around.  He had only been with one woman in his life which was his ex-wife.  It says to “let patience have it’s perfect work so you may be perfect and entire wanting nothing.”  Exercising self-control is a fruit of the spirit and it’s letting patience have her perfect work in us.

Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:4

I asked the Lord because of my problem with celibacy and temptations why it is taking me so long to meet a spouse this time, and he told me that he wants me to have a closer walk with him, that was one year ago so I’ve been focusing on my study of the word and prayer, and like it says above “letting patience finish her work.”

The widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help.  But the widow who lives for pleasure is dead even while she lives. 1 Timothy 5:5-6


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