Monday, February 4, 2013

Does Love Eat Crow?




colloquial idiom, meaning humiliation by admitting wrongness or having been proved wrong after taking a strong position.

I heard someone say that love is never having to say, "I am sorry." I disagree, I believe love is never having to say, "I have regrets." I have very few regrets in life and none with my relatives who have passed away as far as my parents, sister and husband.

A typical teenage behavior is not owning up to one’s mistakes, as far as everything is another person’s fault. I’ve worked around very intelligent people all my life. I worked almost ten years for physicians in training and typically, they have a lot of adolescent behavior. Physicians in private practice are not the same as the just book smarts, because they actually have more hands-on experience in practice and more accountability for their actions. They also have very high malpractice insurance.

A good leader will take responsibilities for his/her own actions. That is the #1 marriage problem I've had in 28 years of marriage is that I never got "I am sorry out of Christian men." It's one reason that children don't respect parents is when the parents won't admit they did something wrong. I had that problem with my dad for 77 years, there was never, "I am sorry."

I have gotten two important "I am sorry" in history and that was my husband's FP physician who was upset he missed my husband's pending heart attack since he had a recent physical. I also got, "I am sorry" from a neighbor boy who admitted he was a jerk to me as a teenager at his mother's funeral.

I never got "I am sorry" out of my husband to me or the children, but there were times he changed his actions when I told him he was being a jerk. It's a flaw of his character and I don't want to be that way as far as I've said, "I am sorry" to several people in my life. I don't expect it back, because I know it's very hard for people to admit they are in the wrong.

John talks about how we should restore our fellowship with God by asking God’s forgiveness so if I have to eat crow everyday with my heavenly Father, I’m not going to be hard headed. I will humble myself and say I am sorry to God every day. It makes me think of Peter who refused to be crucified when he died for Christ, but was crucified upside down.

But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. If we claim we have not sinned, we are calling God a liar and showing that his word has no place in our hearts. 1 John 1:9-10

I will say, "God I am sorry for the sins of my country."

if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14

But the most important part of eating crow is to remember where you came from. In taking the Lord’s communion it talks about examining ourselves before taking communion so we won't experienced judgment. We are not take communion and be in a hurry to go watch a ball game. Part of examining ourselves is to know what Christ did for us and the rest of the body of Christ so its our fellowship with the Lord and our fellowship with others.

But if we judged ourselves, we would not come under judgment. 1 Cor. 11:31

It makes me think of what John the Baptist said who spent his time separated from the rest of the world seeking God and yet he said, “He was not worthy to loose a shoe string”….John the Baptist said that.  Paul said he was the worst of sinners. So in recognizing that yes God loves us unconditionally and accepts us unconditionally, but recognize it’s who we are in Jesus Christ.  In our fleshly man is nothing good.

And this was his message: "After me will come one more powerful than I, the thongs of whose sandals I am not worthy to stoop down and untie. Mark 1:7



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