A relationship is like a cell phone plan. Unlimited access, roll over minutes at times, more time after 7pm and weekends. I signed a contract for my plan. Negotiate for better service at times. The service does not end abruptly. (May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:18). You wake up and your phone was terminated. I recently changed my name from Sarah Connor. I am looking for a “smart phone,” i.e., one that eats healthy.
God has a sense of humor. Look at the animals in the zoo and go look in the mirror. I was thinking how all the toilets in my house were stopped up. I asked God if I had crap in my life and within minutes I heard, “Yes you do.” I had a deep laughter for 15 minutes. I talked to a man from POF and the whole hour he talked about the X-files. God’s way of telling me I’ve been too obsessed over Science Fiction. Not everything in the world is hurtful, but not everything edifies our spirit. (1 Cor. 10:23)
Even with a job and different activities, I lost my heart to heaven when my husband died ("For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Matt. 6:21) I got some of my heart back yesterday at the lake boating and it was bringing joy to other people. In a divorce, love was slain in my heart through words and actions. We are to be tender hearted towards each other (Eph. 4:32).
Paul talked about abiding in your calling (1Cor. 7:20&24). When I became a Christian I was a single parent. I was distracted with family life. I immediately was a street minister (went and told what Jesus did for me). I'll catch the fish (have socials) and you can clean the fish. Some of us are called to the Jews (or Christians) some are called to minister to the Gentiles (the unbelievers). We are all called to motivate one another to love and good works. (Hebrews 10:24)
Check in Policy: Most hotels you have to check in when you get there. In marriage as a common courtesy you check in with each. I miss "checking in" with a man and a person who daily cared for my soul. It's like that with my heavenly Father. God what is my assignment today? I'm reporting for active duty. Lately, with many single's I'm currently on "Mission Impossible."
Dating is exciting in meeting new people. I do agree with one of my friends that people can live in California because they don't focus on the faults (1 Peter 4:8 love covers a multitude of faults). I believe that is good advice whether you go out for dinner or you go to a single's social. I also believe it's important to not live in the past and not focus on past mistakes moving forward for a better tomorrow. Enjoy a person's company. So I am trying to enjoy the process right now
Disclaimer: Trinity may get a hold of the keyboard and type helpful hints soon. I let her out for the shark cage in Hawaii, bungy jump in New Zealand, scuba diving in Australia, Florida, and Hawaii. She said that she has been feeling caged lately. These alter egos are formed in action heroes as the result of loss for Daredevil, Superman, Spiderman, Batman, Cat woman, etc. Sending out a disclaimer a head of time.
Not sure many men are emotionally ready for a commitment. I know divorced men single for over 10-20 years. What girl is the most fun to play with on the block? Trinity does not care how long a guy has been single; his race or age because she does not follow man's rules. I wish my husband would have listened to his heart rather than his head. It would have saved me one bummer relationship before I met him in waiting one year from his divorce to date instead of ten months.
I was going through discouragement last night and I picked up my guitar and sang and it went away. I think it is similar to how David was able to help Saul by his playing when he was oppressed. It's really been the main cure for me in getting rid of depression over losing my husband is to sing. God sent the praisers out in front of Jehoshaphat’s army. I'm getting a piano I bought from a relative on Monday and I am looking forward to playing one again. Music does lift the soul.
Men tell me on the phone, “I’m never going to find a person who meets my expectations.” You sank your boat by your words, because your expectation is zero. It's faith in reverse. I can only drive my car in reverse so long and it may crash. The rear view mirror is smaller than the front window. “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” I did not accept negativity that no one would “want me with five kids” when I posted a single’s ad when I was divorced. (Proverbs 6:2, 18:21)
A relationship is like having fun at the lake. Although, you do have to apply sunscreen ever so often (set boundaries even in marriage) or you can end up with a hurtful sunburn.
My son is officially on route back to Hong Kong and it’s a good thing because I don't have to hear about my burned biscuits anymore. Forget all those wonderful casserole dishes I cooked for him and four other children. Biscuits are perfectly good when you cut the bottoms off!
Romance the Stone: I screened and dated 26 men to meet my husband and my husband was the only one who romanced my children (invited my children and me over for dinner and out on dates). I've been out with 18 guys and not one of them I would term a "kids" person. I grew up with 2 Catholic families of 7 children. Kickball, Monopoly, hide-n-seek, baseball. I loved a big family and the activities. Hard to find a person who really likes children and shares that vision.
Keep the fences up against the foxes: “Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards...” Song of Solomon 2:15. My husband spent many late hours at work. Many people get involved in affairs because they get more attention at work from the opposite sex. There were times where we were going through rough patches I chose to remain “steadfast”/unmovable. (1 Cor. 15:58, 1 Peter 5:8, 1 Cor. 7:37, 2 Thess. 3:3).
People will wrong us and step on our toes. “Forgive others their trespasses as God has forgiven us our trespasses.”(Matthew 6:14-15). I was more stubborn and slept on the couch twice in 14 years of marriage when I was angry (Be angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath” Ephesians 4:26): This scripture means to solve your differences as quickly as you can. You may not be able to solve blended family problems in a 24-hour time period.
Society has less manners and courtesy. Raised on Homer Simpson? I was raised on the Coyote and the Road Runner. Children would eat first and then women. The Titanic considered women and children. Children don’t respect parents, because parents don’t respect children. We had a Family Contract where the children decided a chore list and the consequences for breaking the rules. It worked well for a while before they drove a car or were in sports in the evening.
I believe it is important to find someone that we can be transparent with for encouragement. Jesus had an inner core of three. In going through blended family problems it was user groups on the Internet, a Christian professional counselor, and books that were our support. That got us through the hard patches in life in raising teenagers. There were no blended families in the small church I attended.
My grandson watched the movie Hook. To fly, you must think a "happy thought" (Philip 4:8) Peter's happy thought was the birth of his children. Have you ever had a dream that you are flying? I had several when I was a child… Flying dreams typically illustrate your sense of freedom and feeling liberated from the constraints of everyday life. Some of us are eagles who like to soar above the earth (Isaiah 40:31).
Just want to let the fashion police know I'm wearing my hair scrunchy today at the lake and I'm wearing it proudly. I have followed rules on the no fanny pack, but a girl has to put down her foot at times.
I’ve met emotionally mature men in their 30’s, and not in their 50’s. Spiritual maturity is different. A new Christian can have a great service to God if he/she continues in God’s word (1Peter 2:2). It warns about pride: (not a recent convert... he may become conceited...1 Timothy 3:6.) Spirituality is letting go of haughty attitudes. God resists the proud and gives grace to the humble. (James 4:10, 1 Peter 5:10, James 4:6, 1Peter 3:8, 1 Timothy 6:17; Luke 14:11, Gal. 5:26).
In Star Trek, Commander Riker says to Picard at the end of each mission, "It's been an honor serving with you." People disrespected Jesus: "A prophet is without honor in his own home and his own country.” Many marriages end in divorce because of disrespect issues (Eph. 5:33). A spouse can transfer their disrespect feelings about their parents on their mate. We are to hold others in high esteem and not disrespect each other: (Philip 2:3, Romans 12:10, 1 Cor. 12:23)
Life is a series of doors. Some doors keep on knocking (Luke 11:9), some doors seek out and some doors will shut (Rev. 3:8, 2 Cor. 2:12, 1 Cor. 16:9, Col 4:3) Other doors I don't want to go through. Abraham left home, Joseph was sold into slavery, David left the shepherd field and ran from Saul, and Jacob was forced to leave. Abraham wanted a wife outside his tribe for Isaac. When I reach outside the confines of my mind is where the greatest victories are won. (Matthew 19:29)
A love meter I am looking for in a social group or church is if when I bring a stranger people will introduce their selves. I try to avoid clicks because that will destroy real unity. Jesus said if you take in a stranger you are taking Him in and some strangers that we host are God's angels (messengers). Many friends bring others to my socials that are strangers (Matthew 25:31-45, Hebrews 13:2)
My motto in life is I'm just here to please. I hope that does not sound like a dog's motto...it's just something I've noticed with family and work. Your wish is my command or as he said in Princess Bride movie, "As you Wish." I was at this Bible study last night and they asked what our mission statement is. My mission statement is I'm here to please God first.
Can I put a warning label on a guy like a pack of cigarettes? I compared notes with another woman who dated the same man and he conned her also into taking care of his cats. I kept them for 2 months and she tolerated them for 2 days, he never had money to help buy food, but wanted us to cook dinner for him and play nurse maid when he was sick when there were only a few dates. It gets way worse than this. I think some guys are con artists. Reminds me of Sawyer on the Lost television show series.
Want to be fruit producer? Exalt God’s word in your life and she will exalt you (“Prize her, and she will exalt you; Proverbs 4:7-9, Psalm 1:1-6). “If” you continue in his word than we will be his disciples (John 8:31) and study to show yourself approved (2 Tim 2:15). Cut out distractions for several months and test if your life situation and joy improves. Paul talked about married couples giving up sex for a short time to seek God.
Agape Love is going outside what we want to do to please our mate to make them happy. It’s watching Elmo goes to Grouch land 40 times because your kids like it. Laying down our lives to please others instead of ourselves. Finding a person who seeks not her/his own all the time. How can we outdo each other in love (1 Cor. 13:2, Romans 15:2, 1 Cor. 7:33)
Seek to be a servant, not to be served. Jesus was God and humbled himself and it talks about being likeminded (Philip 2:5-11). The greatest person will be the servant of all like Mother Teresa. Seeking to serve those who appreciate your gifts (those who have ears to hear and hearts that are hungry).
Have you noticed that Facebook is blue? I personally like red (energetic and outside) and black (rebellious don't like following the norm/crowd). I've had way too much blue in my house. I always like seeing bright colors on a woman it just makes me think she has a bright personality. My husband's friend painted each room in their house a bright color!
Chocolate covered grasshoppers? To take the promise land it requires conquering fears. Did the Children of Israel have mind reading powers? Why did they believe that the giants saw them as grasshoppers? "There we saw the giants...we were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their sight." - Numbers 13:33 NKJV’’…. We can give in to a spirit of defeat because of our incorrect perceptions, attitudes, and assumptions.
You can have Captain Picard and I’ll take Commander Richter. Yes siree, I’m fine with a guy who is second in command (an oxymoron). The Alpha-Male: Some men remind me of a stallion trying to herd a bunch of women in their corral. Hero worship with a pastor, a popular television personality, or finding a spouse. I make a lousy god. Excuse me almighty. Nothing wrong with admiring a person. Sometimes I am lazy and don’t shave my legs…oh I just lost my goddess status.
God gives us a free will in loving and serving him and we can’t control another person’s will. If a person chooses to quit loving us at any time it’s an act of their free will. You can choose to love a 16-year old foster child that you have no history with. Promote a love atmosphere by thinking good and then treating/acting kindly and you can turn some relationships around. Treat others kindly when you don’t feel like it. (Kill them with kindness? Romans 12:20)
Life College Classes: Men should take Romance 101, Communication, Repair Shop, Dancing, Cooking, Cleaning, Pick Up After Self, Healthy Eating, and Massage Therapy classes. I am open to whatever classes a guy thinks I need to take. Possibly Financial Management, Too Busy, Shopper Alcoholics, Exercise, Home Organization and Lawn Care, Hoarders of Paper and Other’s Junk Anonymous. I’m currently enrolled in Patience at the 600 level. (Hebrews 6:12, James 1:3, 2 Thess. 1:4)
One of the battles I had in marriage with an intelligent engineer is his tendency to not “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” in a crisis (Proverbs 3:5). Listening to our heads rather than our hearts. Listening to God “in a pickle” rather than trying to get ourselves out of the pickle. Have you ever gone through a corn field maze at Halloween? Developing a strong prayer life is a good way to get you out of a maze.
Like Jerry McGuire wanted to share his victories, I like a joy sharer. That is what I miss most is my joy sharer. Be a burden bearer for others. It’s more blessed to give than receive. Taking those burdens to God in prayer and having a prayer partner. Jesus said his yoke is easy and his burden is light and so is marriage when you are taking on the yoke of Christ. Who can you have the most fun with? A balance in life between women/guy friends.
Whenever I have what Anne of Green Gables calls a “Jonah Day.” I know that the next day the son is going to shine and it’s a new day. Lamentations 3:22-24 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in him." I play and sing this as a song on my guitar.
Love children? Dated too many men that wanted to keep me all to themselves. My first date was a skating rink and the second date we met at Chucky Cheese pizza. Vacations were mostly with the children. The children are part of the packaged deal. Ask Joseph who married Mary in the Bible. Where was his honeymoon? Maybe after Egypt the relatives helped for Friday night date night like mine did.
What Do You Like? I like a physical guy, but not a carnal guy. A high-energy person. Esau was an outdoors man, but he put carnal blessings above spiritual blessings. Jacob wrestled with God and man in his life. Do you want an ambitious, social and active guy or are you okay with a guy who likes to stay indoors more?
I always like a story of the man who comes to rescue you like a knight in shiny armor (First Knight) or a cowboy on a horse (John Wayne). In modern days, that may be on motorcycle. I like a man who can fix things. Although, my ultimate rescuing comes from God. "The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time." Psalm 34:19
Life can be a disappointment. Fixing our eyes on Jesus in life not on people, a spouse, self-pity, or circumstances. Hebrews 12:2. You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you: because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3. Everyone left Jesus. Like a ship that plots its course to the stars or celestial fix, putting our thoughts on God first thing every day. Colossians 3:1
Does a person hold grudges? Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Colossians 3:19. Do your work/life schedules mesh? Don’t go to bed at different times, and the "tenderness factor" fades away. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32. (1 Peter 3:8, Col. 3:13)
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