I love that quote on “Back to the Future.” When Marty McFly is trying to instruct his dad how to pick up his mother, Lorraine, and George says, “I am your density” instead of “I am your destiny.” I like what Marty said in trying to get them together, is that it was a miracle he was even born. I often felt like that when it came to my parent’s relationship and my mother’s extreme Victorian ways and I’ve often thought that way with many Christian single groups views about marriage. Wow, it’s a miracle any of you were born, i.e. if your parents were like you!
Yeah God, I’ll take a guy who is my density. Some of these guys are pretty dense! Or is that dunce as in dunce caps….LOL I remember a long time ago they used to put these dunce caps on you if you got in trouble.
My daughter and I were laughing that I had gotten over being single as soon as I arrived on the planet four years ago. In fact, this lady at work recommended reading that book, “What Men Don’t Want Women To Know” by Smith and Doe. I read it after my husband passed away and tears were streaming down my face. What I found is the book was mirror. The first thought was not how much I was going to miss my husband as a companion, the first thought was self-preservation of “God it took me long enough to find a compatible sexual partner.”
Most of our society plants in our brain over and over that statistically men love sex more than women. Then you have women that believe that all their life. I just can’t ever remember in my entire life that my sex drive ever dropped off in life, even with children. I guess I just did not believe that lie that men like sex more than women. In fact, I find that usually I like sex more than most men. I just find that as long as I’m passionately in love with a man, I enjoy it a heck of whole lot more. Same with my spirituality, when I’m passionately loving God’s word, I just enjoy it a whole lot more that I am a Christian.
My husband’s love language was sex and affection, and I was good at speaking his love language since that is my primary love language too. What I find as a Christian is finding out what pleases God. I found out pleasing God was pleasing my husband. As a single woman, I am currently concerned about pleasing God, that is what Paul was talking about. Being single is there are fewer distractions in pleasing God.
But it all goes back to if you can “take it or leave it, and I have just left it at the altar temporary. (Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship. Romans 12:1)
I was teasing my guy friends that I’ve got my own Scare Tactics reality show and its how many men can I run off online my age when I eventually tell them how my husband had a heart attack. Who will be my next victim? My husband certainly got his last laugh with me. That movie, “Joyful Noise” is so true as far as my intimidating men.
Our society sells us a bunch of propaganda. I never was a woman who had mood swings every 28 days. Maybe I just did not believe for those horrendous mood swings. I’ve always been a positive person and Chuck Swindoll said that it’s 10% what happens to you and 90% your attitude.
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. Luke 6:45
What I find is there are partial truths to positive thinking and partial truths to the faith message. It’s trying to change what comes out of your mouth as change what you believe in your heart. If you get a person to change what they believe, than you can change their destiny.
It’s getting a person to believe they can slay a giant inside (they are a giant slayer inside) like David. Or getting a person to believe they can take the promise land like Joshua and Caleb. I’ve met several men that told me that they can’t get past the first date with a woman. “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7
David already picture taking Goliath’s head in his mind before it happened. It’s amazing how when you get God’s word in your mind that it produces positive things out of your mouth, but it always produces a new hope and vision for your future and that is what God says I will give you “hope for your future.”
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
But it’s constantly sowing good seeds in your mind. I find too many times single groups don’t sow the right seeds. I know I’ll hear positive things about marriage from a spousal loss group, but not from people many times at single groups. I try to protect the image of a good relationship and that love relationship that I had with my husband for 15 years through being around people with good relationships. It’s the same thing I did when I was single never married. I also fill myself up with the word of God.
The Bible teaches marriage not abstinence:
Be fruitful and multiply, Genesis 1:28
Better to marry than to burn in passionate lust 1 Cor. 7:9
To avoid fornication every man should have his own woman and every woman have her own husband 1 Cor. 7:2
If a man acts improperly towards his virgin, go ahead and marry 1 Cor. 7:36).
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:18
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 1 Cor. 7:39
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4
Yeah God, I’ll take a guy who is my density. Some of these guys are pretty dense! Or is that dunce as in dunce caps….LOL I remember a long time ago they used to put these dunce caps on you if you got in trouble.
My daughter and I were laughing that I had gotten over being single as soon as I arrived on the planet four years ago. In fact, this lady at work recommended reading that book, “What Men Don’t Want Women To Know” by Smith and Doe. I read it after my husband passed away and tears were streaming down my face. What I found is the book was mirror. The first thought was not how much I was going to miss my husband as a companion, the first thought was self-preservation of “God it took me long enough to find a compatible sexual partner.”
Most of our society plants in our brain over and over that statistically men love sex more than women. Then you have women that believe that all their life. I just can’t ever remember in my entire life that my sex drive ever dropped off in life, even with children. I guess I just did not believe that lie that men like sex more than women. In fact, I find that usually I like sex more than most men. I just find that as long as I’m passionately in love with a man, I enjoy it a heck of whole lot more. Same with my spirituality, when I’m passionately loving God’s word, I just enjoy it a whole lot more that I am a Christian.
My husband’s love language was sex and affection, and I was good at speaking his love language since that is my primary love language too. What I find as a Christian is finding out what pleases God. I found out pleasing God was pleasing my husband. As a single woman, I am currently concerned about pleasing God, that is what Paul was talking about. Being single is there are fewer distractions in pleasing God.
But it all goes back to if you can “take it or leave it, and I have just left it at the altar temporary. (Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship. Romans 12:1)
I was teasing my guy friends that I’ve got my own Scare Tactics reality show and its how many men can I run off online my age when I eventually tell them how my husband had a heart attack. Who will be my next victim? My husband certainly got his last laugh with me. That movie, “Joyful Noise” is so true as far as my intimidating men.
Our society sells us a bunch of propaganda. I never was a woman who had mood swings every 28 days. Maybe I just did not believe for those horrendous mood swings. I’ve always been a positive person and Chuck Swindoll said that it’s 10% what happens to you and 90% your attitude.
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. Luke 6:45
What I find is there are partial truths to positive thinking and partial truths to the faith message. It’s trying to change what comes out of your mouth as change what you believe in your heart. If you get a person to change what they believe, than you can change their destiny.
It’s getting a person to believe they can slay a giant inside (they are a giant slayer inside) like David. Or getting a person to believe they can take the promise land like Joshua and Caleb. I’ve met several men that told me that they can’t get past the first date with a woman. “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7
David already picture taking Goliath’s head in his mind before it happened. It’s amazing how when you get God’s word in your mind that it produces positive things out of your mouth, but it always produces a new hope and vision for your future and that is what God says I will give you “hope for your future.”
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
But it’s constantly sowing good seeds in your mind. I find too many times single groups don’t sow the right seeds. I know I’ll hear positive things about marriage from a spousal loss group, but not from people many times at single groups. I try to protect the image of a good relationship and that love relationship that I had with my husband for 15 years through being around people with good relationships. It’s the same thing I did when I was single never married. I also fill myself up with the word of God.
The Bible teaches marriage not abstinence:
Be fruitful and multiply, Genesis 1:28
Better to marry than to burn in passionate lust 1 Cor. 7:9
To avoid fornication every man should have his own woman and every woman have her own husband 1 Cor. 7:2
If a man acts improperly towards his virgin, go ahead and marry 1 Cor. 7:36).
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:18
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 1 Cor. 7:39
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22
I consider it totally unfair that some of us have these stronger biological urges all our lives than others considering what is on the market and many men pass away early due to society’s poor eating habits and stress, but that just gives me more opportunities to exercise my faith as a single widow at my age. Actually, it was not easy finding a partner when I was divorced at 35 years old with five children either.
To stay a positive person in this life you have to walk by faith not by sight. 2. Cor. 5:7
I’ve been rather a spy like the CIA planted in single groups. If I go to a spousal loss group compared to a single’s group it’s night and day when it comes to the attitudes of marriage. I find many times you become what your diet is, like “Supersize Me.” In four years I’ve managed to be used of God to pull three couples out of the “Lonely Hearts Club.” If you want to go through life believing it takes 10-20 years to find a mate, it’s says many times in the Bible, “Let it be according to your faith.” I’ve turned down several potential serious relationships.
The Lord was speaking to me that if I exercise I would be a lot happier. You are right God, my husband and I used to make jokes that we exercised in bed every night; I sure would enjoy that exercise again. We were enjoying that exercise when he had his little heart problem. I also know I need to work out more and I’ll feel better and have more energy. It’s taken me four years to understand what God was saying about the exercise, but God meant, “You will be happier if you exercise your faith.”
I find exercising my faith is first in small ways and obeying the voice of my spirit. There have been several acts of obedience in my life. One was a call like Peter to feed God sheep by typing up blogs. Another is when I go to a single’s group is to share the message that God has on my heart at the time. It’s to deliver a package. Like and evangelist it’s to sow my seed, once I’ve delivered my seed (like spiritual sex) than it’s on to where else God has sent me.
I’m not really called to single’s group; I’m called to the Body of Christ and primarily to the lost. But mainly I’m called to help those who are hurting and sick. My new marching orders have been to help those oppressed and want to be helped. It’s not to force feed anyone the gospel. (When the teachers of the law who were Pharisees saw him eating with the "sinners" and tax collectors, they asked his disciples: "Why does he eat with tax collectors and 'sinners'?" On hearing this, Jesus said to them, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners." Mark 2:16-17)
Can we change our destiny in life? I’ve compared my husband’s heart attack to all the warning lights he had going on like my former boss had warning lights on his car and ignored them and then the engine of his car went out.
If Abraham would have come down lower than ten righteous people God would have saved Sodom and Gomorrah. David had a death sentence pronounced on him but he repented. Hezekiah had 15 years added to his life for crying out to the Lord. Jonah was sent to Nineveh and saved an entire city. Rahab was saved for helping the Israel spies in Jericho. What choices we make do affect our lives. So we can change our destiny.
This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live. Duet. 30:19
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