When my daughter and I were on this road trip headed to Cairnes, Australia, to go scuba diving at the Great Barrier Reef, we ran over all these toads in the hi-way with the rental car. Thump…Thump….Thump….Thump. When we got to our destination our tire went flat. Maybe things have been a little flat romantically in your life?
How do you get a dream guy? #1 top of the list is look at the man’s relationships with others, same with a woman. If he has good relationships with others he will be a dream guy. I was listening to a television minister talk about the main reason that new churches that were planted did not succeed, because the leaders had issues with their dad.
I will vouch that the Lord dealt with me about reconciling with my father when I was 28 years old when I went through a divorce and he drove down to Florida to pick me up. I ended up living with him for a year with four children. That was the healing our relationship. My sister never did get her bitterness reconciled with my father and I know she had two bad relationships. I also found that both my previous ex-husbands had issues with their fathers who died early. My first husband lost his father to a sudden heart attack at about age 55 years old (he was 23 years old at the time) and my second husband his father died of alcoholism after a divorce when he was 16 years old. If it was not issues with their father it was issues with their mothers in a settle blaming them for the early death of their fathers.
He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse." Malachi 4:6
It’s an act of our will sometimes sheer obedience to God’s word, “God I forgive my dad…mother” if she falls in that category of needing forgiveness.
Issues with others horizontally affect our vertical relationship with God; don’t kid yourself that they don’t. He said “When you stand praying forgive if you have anything against anyone” Mark 11:25. I know this is very difficult for women who have been sexually molested by their fathers and Joyce Meyer talks about this. For my sister and me, it was our dad being overcorrecting with a belt and verbally. Even subconsciously, after I became a Christian, it was hard to forgive my dad and accept him into my life unconditionally, because of his harshness.
Next, look at the man’s relationships with his children. My deceased husband dealt with his issues with his dad and they went golfing a lot to foster a close relationship. He told me his dad had mellowed out a lot through the years. He also had a good relationship with his son and daughter he fostered all the way up even during their teenage years. It was difficult because at times it was stressed because of their rebellion, but he managed to keep the peace eventually. There was one point of time, after his daughter moved in four months after we were married when she was constantly mocking me behind my back. I know she was angry that her parents got a divorce and she was taking it out on the new wife (me).
Look to see if the guy has long-term friends from childhood, what type of friends he has now. I personally think friends are hard to come by so if I can have just one or two close friends, and I consider my daughters my best friends right now (my Ruth’s) in life.
I think when I meet men who have lost their wife if they don’t have any children how much more devastating that is. Or if their kids are too busy for them or blame them for the divorce between their mother and them.
Next, I would ask any woman in a relationship is the man worthy to have your hand? A good movie I like is the new version of the Cinderella movie, “Ever After: A Cinderella Story” where the prince is very high-minded and Leonardo de Vinci said that he is not worthy of such a precious gift as the woman Danielle. Is the guy worthy of you as a precious gift from God? Will he treat you like a princess? I find few men that treat women like a princess. Maybe it’s because many men see themselves as a frog or a toad and not a prince? It says as a man thinketh in his heart so is he!
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Proverbs 23:7
The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord. Proverbs 23:7
We are ambassadors for Jesus Christ so do we see ourselves that we work for the almighty God? Some single guys irritate me with talking about other women in front of me, talking about submission, and what they expect their future wife to do. All I can say is run and never look back. These are insecurity issues. Probably the man has very low self-esteem issues and he has got to see that he is king/priest in the order of Melchizedek like Jesus Christ now that we have been adopted into God’s family.
You have made them to be a kingdom and priests to serve our God, and they will reign on the earth." Rev. 5:10 and Rev. 1:6
For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God's abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ. Romans 5:17
I don’t want to be treated like trash, because some guy sees himself like a trash heap! In some ways, I would rather deal with a man’s high self-esteem problems than his low self-esteem problems. Usually a higher self-esteem makes a strong leader and entrepreneur.
Next, look and see if they man is stable and happy with his job. I find men tend to take out their job problems on their mate. If the guy does not have a job, it’s not a good time for him to be in a relationship. For a man to respect himself and for a woman to respect him, he needs to be doing well in his job. If he is trying to get a new job off the ground, it will be very difficult for him to focus on a relationship until the job and his finances are stable.
There are enough problems in getting married and in a relationship let alone have a bunch of job problems to bring into the marriage.
I had several difficulties with my husband the last two years of our marriage before he passed away, and it was his fear of losing his job (estimating in land development) over the economy. They say the fear of losing your job is worse than losing it and I believe that is true. I’ve lost two jobs to downsizing. My husband had that constant worry on his mind and I know it hindered his ability to concentrate on our relationship and he seemed very distracted whenever we would go for dinner on Friday nights. It was a constant burden on his mind in thinking about losing his job.
When we started dating he said he was happy with his job and he was willing to carve out time from his formerly working 80 hours a week so we could get married. My husband always worked a lot of hours with his type of job and the high income he made, it required more hours than an average job. That was the price I was willing to make with him. It just meant that our little time together between his job and raising six children together was all the more precious.
Ever After: A Cinderella Story:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hcj9fyx6DXI
How do you get a dream guy? #1 top of the list is look at the man’s relationships with others, same with a woman. If he has good relationships with others he will be a dream guy. I was listening to a television minister talk about the main reason that new churches that were planted did not succeed, because the leaders had issues with their dad.
I will vouch that the Lord dealt with me about reconciling with my father when I was 28 years old when I went through a divorce and he drove down to Florida to pick me up. I ended up living with him for a year with four children. That was the healing our relationship. My sister never did get her bitterness reconciled with my father and I know she had two bad relationships. I also found that both my previous ex-husbands had issues with their fathers who died early. My first husband lost his father to a sudden heart attack at about age 55 years old (he was 23 years old at the time) and my second husband his father died of alcoholism after a divorce when he was 16 years old. If it was not issues with their father it was issues with their mothers in a settle blaming them for the early death of their fathers.
He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse." Malachi 4:6
It’s an act of our will sometimes sheer obedience to God’s word, “God I forgive my dad…mother” if she falls in that category of needing forgiveness.
Issues with others horizontally affect our vertical relationship with God; don’t kid yourself that they don’t. He said “When you stand praying forgive if you have anything against anyone” Mark 11:25. I know this is very difficult for women who have been sexually molested by their fathers and Joyce Meyer talks about this. For my sister and me, it was our dad being overcorrecting with a belt and verbally. Even subconsciously, after I became a Christian, it was hard to forgive my dad and accept him into my life unconditionally, because of his harshness.
Next, look at the man’s relationships with his children. My deceased husband dealt with his issues with his dad and they went golfing a lot to foster a close relationship. He told me his dad had mellowed out a lot through the years. He also had a good relationship with his son and daughter he fostered all the way up even during their teenage years. It was difficult because at times it was stressed because of their rebellion, but he managed to keep the peace eventually. There was one point of time, after his daughter moved in four months after we were married when she was constantly mocking me behind my back. I know she was angry that her parents got a divorce and she was taking it out on the new wife (me).
Look to see if the guy has long-term friends from childhood, what type of friends he has now. I personally think friends are hard to come by so if I can have just one or two close friends, and I consider my daughters my best friends right now (my Ruth’s) in life.
I think when I meet men who have lost their wife if they don’t have any children how much more devastating that is. Or if their kids are too busy for them or blame them for the divorce between their mother and them.
Next, I would ask any woman in a relationship is the man worthy to have your hand? A good movie I like is the new version of the Cinderella movie, “Ever After: A Cinderella Story” where the prince is very high-minded and Leonardo de Vinci said that he is not worthy of such a precious gift as the woman Danielle. Is the guy worthy of you as a precious gift from God? Will he treat you like a princess? I find few men that treat women like a princess. Maybe it’s because many men see themselves as a frog or a toad and not a prince? It says as a man thinketh in his heart so is he!
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Proverbs 23:7
The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord. Proverbs 23:7
We are ambassadors for Jesus Christ so do we see ourselves that we work for the almighty God? Some single guys irritate me with talking about other women in front of me, talking about submission, and what they expect their future wife to do. All I can say is run and never look back. These are insecurity issues. Probably the man has very low self-esteem issues and he has got to see that he is king/priest in the order of Melchizedek like Jesus Christ now that we have been adopted into God’s family.
You have made them to be a kingdom and priests to serve our God, and they will reign on the earth." Rev. 5:10 and Rev. 1:6
For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God's abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ. Romans 5:17
I don’t want to be treated like trash, because some guy sees himself like a trash heap! In some ways, I would rather deal with a man’s high self-esteem problems than his low self-esteem problems. Usually a higher self-esteem makes a strong leader and entrepreneur.
Next, look and see if they man is stable and happy with his job. I find men tend to take out their job problems on their mate. If the guy does not have a job, it’s not a good time for him to be in a relationship. For a man to respect himself and for a woman to respect him, he needs to be doing well in his job. If he is trying to get a new job off the ground, it will be very difficult for him to focus on a relationship until the job and his finances are stable.
There are enough problems in getting married and in a relationship let alone have a bunch of job problems to bring into the marriage.
I had several difficulties with my husband the last two years of our marriage before he passed away, and it was his fear of losing his job (estimating in land development) over the economy. They say the fear of losing your job is worse than losing it and I believe that is true. I’ve lost two jobs to downsizing. My husband had that constant worry on his mind and I know it hindered his ability to concentrate on our relationship and he seemed very distracted whenever we would go for dinner on Friday nights. It was a constant burden on his mind in thinking about losing his job.
When we started dating he said he was happy with his job and he was willing to carve out time from his formerly working 80 hours a week so we could get married. My husband always worked a lot of hours with his type of job and the high income he made, it required more hours than an average job. That was the price I was willing to make with him. It just meant that our little time together between his job and raising six children together was all the more precious.
Ever After: A Cinderella Story:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hcj9fyx6DXI
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