My daughter Sandy calls me Momma Bear. I told her she needs to quit calling me that to call me Mary who had several little lambs, because when I was taking care of my grandson, he woke up too many times like a bear in the morning. I like Goldilocks and the Three Bears and also the fairytale of Princess and the Pea.
I like both of these fairytales because a true princess actually felt the pea through the thickness of several mattresses and could not fall asleep all night. I like the story of Goldilocks, because it reminds me of being widowed after being divorced at my age. Goldilocks was very “picky” about what she ate, what chair she sat in, and where she slept, and she only liked baby bear’s stuff. I’m not sure why she was in a stranger’s house….LOL
I know other women that are looking for a “special” person in their life and once you had a special man or woman, you want another special person. I’ve already been through this merry-go-round of dating when I was divorced at 35 years old with four small children at home and after a divorce I was looking for a “very” special person who would take on four small children.
I realize that many men want to go ten years younger in dating, but since women outlive men, there are more single women the older you become in life. Not all men are like that. I personally like men my age mainly because we will be on the same “page” in life. If you get a man who is still going through a mid-life crisis or just hitting the 50-mark, it affects people differently.
I think it’s wonderful when I read on a man’s profile, “I am a one-woman man.” There are these exceptions to the rule that you can find and that is what I always look for are the exceptions. Elijah was looking for “exceptions” to the rule and God told him, He had reserved 7,000 men who had not bowed the knee to the god of Baal.
Yet I reserve seven thousand in Israel--all whose knees have not bowed down to Baal and all whose mouths have not kissed him." 1 King 19:18
Our society likes to lump people into generalization categories and I know we tend to do that with women don’t like sex, all men are cheaters, etc. I met some nice men when I was dating my husband as number 26 from a single’s ad and it’s the same now, I’ve met over 25 men through online dating or single socials that were nice men. They have personality tests and my husband came in at only 7% of the population with his personality type.
Like Goldilocks, I look for the one that is “just right” and when you find him, you will know it if you follow your heart. You can follow your mind too if your mind if it is renewed to God’s word. I put my heart over my mind, but I find that I don’t discount my brain, because I find that my mind can be very valuable asset or ally in life. Like Yoda said on Star Wars, “The force is powerful ally, a powerful ally.” The mind can be ally rather than an enemy when my heart is in the right place.
More than reasoning, I follow an “inner” peace in my heart when it comes to dating a person. The more I dated my husband, the more I liked him, and the more “peace” that passes understanding was in the relationship that alleviates all doubts and fears. If you are dating and doubts start arising, realize doubts happen for a reason, and you have to be “fully persuaded” beyond a shadow of a doubt that you want to spend the rest of your life with a person.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:6
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philip 4:7
Epaphras, a member of your own fellowship and a servant of Christ Jesus, sends you his greetings. He always prays earnestly for you, asking God to make you strong and perfect, fully confident that you are following the whole will of God. Colossians 4:12
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