My former husband was a player like his father, but he was a player of sports, not of women. There is a difference. One of the dangers I found in posting a single’s ad and meeting my husband through a single’s ad is other men who had ads that just kept playing that game over and over again. I met a lot of Christian men that just went on this Farris Wheel or merry-go-round of never settling down. My spouse did not place a single’s ad so he was already single minded on what he wanted which was a serious relationship. He was looking for one woman. Occasionally, I find men through online dating that are like that as far as not just wanting to play the field. It goes down to looking at their profile and they “say” they want a serious relationship, but they are playing the field. They have not settled on that one base.
he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does. James 1:8
One way you can “tell” a player is they will suggest that you have an exclusive relationship as far as not see anyone else, but they don’t give any indication that they are exclusive. They don’t “check in” with you as far as their accountability during the week. I’ve heard if you have a man’s Saturday night, you usually have his heart, but I was dating someone before my husband that I wanted to go out with him during the week and he would not go out with me, only on a Saturday. He turned out to be a player. So I got played when I was divorced. Have not been played since I've been widowed because I've wised up. It reminds me of that Amy Grant song, "You better wise up."
When you are with the right person there is a “shared” accountability where you tell each other what you are doing. It’s that check-in policy like getting in a hotel room. The danger of those through Internet dating is that they play the field so much that many of them can’t seem to drop out of that game! They are constantly looking for the next big thrill ride.
Many times you can follow your “gut” feeling about a situation or a person, but there have been some times where I don’t have a gut feeling about a person. I’ve had to look at the “signs” along the road of life when you are on a detour road as far as where is the next road sign to do what I am supposed to do to lead you on the right highway.
Wise Up: Amy Grant
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gmW_JwJjaVg
he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does. James 1:8
One way you can “tell” a player is they will suggest that you have an exclusive relationship as far as not see anyone else, but they don’t give any indication that they are exclusive. They don’t “check in” with you as far as their accountability during the week. I’ve heard if you have a man’s Saturday night, you usually have his heart, but I was dating someone before my husband that I wanted to go out with him during the week and he would not go out with me, only on a Saturday. He turned out to be a player. So I got played when I was divorced. Have not been played since I've been widowed because I've wised up. It reminds me of that Amy Grant song, "You better wise up."
When you are with the right person there is a “shared” accountability where you tell each other what you are doing. It’s that check-in policy like getting in a hotel room. The danger of those through Internet dating is that they play the field so much that many of them can’t seem to drop out of that game! They are constantly looking for the next big thrill ride.
Many times you can follow your “gut” feeling about a situation or a person, but there have been some times where I don’t have a gut feeling about a person. I’ve had to look at the “signs” along the road of life when you are on a detour road as far as where is the next road sign to do what I am supposed to do to lead you on the right highway.
Wise Up: Amy Grant
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gmW_JwJjaVg
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