Alfred
Hitchcock had this way of bringing up "mommy issues" through his
Psycho thrillers and his character Norman Bates. But being a momma's boy is not
all bad.
Just as it is written: "Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated." Romans 9:13....The story of Jacob and Esau is an interesting story as far as Isaac loved Esau because he was an outdoors man. The type that went hunting and fishing (a manly man) where Rebecca loved Jacob because he was on her apron strings. (Isaac loved Esau because he enjoyed eating the wild game Esau brought home, but Rebekah loved Jacob. Genesis 25:28)
Isaac was also very “close” to his mother and Abraham went and had his servant travel a distance to find a bride for Isaac to comfort him when his mother Sarah passed away. (Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death. Genesis 24:67)
Many women worry about a man being “too” close to his mother. I’ve met some men of single mothers that seem more protective of women and learned how to help out around the kitchen. I look to see a man’s relationship with women in his life growing up (sisters) besides his relationship with his mother because of his family history he will relate better to women in his adult life.
I’ve noticed that men usually treat their mothers the same way their father treat their wife usually. If a man failed to regularly check in with their mother, don’t be surprised if he neglects to check in with you when you are married to him. Actually, I find this does not come naturally to me either. I was not considerate to check-in with my parents in growing up so I have to do the opposite in a relationship, because I have this tendency to do "my own thing." It does not promote communication.
Forget his mother’s birthday, than forget other special days in marriage. Most men and women in life when they grow up tend to lean towards one relationship over the other, i.e. either a father or mother as far as closeness. It's amazing how much of our character is formed by quality time with one of our parents. My father spent time with my son when I was a single mother. My husband's grandparents spent more time with him growing up then his parents did, but my spouse became closer to his dad after his grandfather passed away.
One theme that developed is that Esau did not care (value) spiritual things such as the blessing of the birthright, but Jacob did. It can be the same way with how we value the Bible and what we spend our money and time on is what we care about. We don't know exactly why, because Isaac was giving the spiritual blessings, and Rebecca seemed to push Jacob towards spiritual things.
In all my travels of meeting people, I have found it seems to be mothers that have a strong influence on their sons to pray them into the kingdom. Also, the bars seems to be filled with more men and more women attend church. A minister made a comment that on Mother's Day the church is full, but on Father's Day, the men are out fishing or watching sports.
Does the hand that rocks the cradle rule the world? I believe the hand that rocks God's throne is the one that rules. (if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14)
Jacob had to leave his mother’s apron strings when he got Esau angry, and we see he was more of the sensitive loving type man in meeting Rachel. Although, a lot of his own deceit came back on him in that Laban deceived him much the same way that he deceived his father. In the long haul, Jacob had a spiritual wrestling with God in his life and became a changed man.
The main point of the story is that Esau sold out a spiritual blessing for a bowl of soup. He was very hungry from hunting, but rather have given in to the weakness of the moment (or his flesh) at that time of temptation he chose the easy road. Same thing happened to Samson, he gave into his weakness. Whatever weakness we have in our flesh, choosing the easy road out is not the answer. Moses chose a more difficult road in life and that was to be identified with his people rather than enjoy the pleasures of Egypt for a season.
Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright. Genesis 25:34
See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son. Hebrews 12:16
The example of Jacob and Esau is a good example of exercising patience and self-control.
We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised. Hebrews 6:12
We give great honor to those who endure under suffering. For instance, you know about Job, a man of great endurance. You can see how the Lord was kind to him at the end, for the Lord is full of tenderness and mercy. James 5:11
Just as it is written: "Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated." Romans 9:13....The story of Jacob and Esau is an interesting story as far as Isaac loved Esau because he was an outdoors man. The type that went hunting and fishing (a manly man) where Rebecca loved Jacob because he was on her apron strings. (Isaac loved Esau because he enjoyed eating the wild game Esau brought home, but Rebekah loved Jacob. Genesis 25:28)
Isaac was also very “close” to his mother and Abraham went and had his servant travel a distance to find a bride for Isaac to comfort him when his mother Sarah passed away. (Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death. Genesis 24:67)
Many women worry about a man being “too” close to his mother. I’ve met some men of single mothers that seem more protective of women and learned how to help out around the kitchen. I look to see a man’s relationship with women in his life growing up (sisters) besides his relationship with his mother because of his family history he will relate better to women in his adult life.
I’ve noticed that men usually treat their mothers the same way their father treat their wife usually. If a man failed to regularly check in with their mother, don’t be surprised if he neglects to check in with you when you are married to him. Actually, I find this does not come naturally to me either. I was not considerate to check-in with my parents in growing up so I have to do the opposite in a relationship, because I have this tendency to do "my own thing." It does not promote communication.
Forget his mother’s birthday, than forget other special days in marriage. Most men and women in life when they grow up tend to lean towards one relationship over the other, i.e. either a father or mother as far as closeness. It's amazing how much of our character is formed by quality time with one of our parents. My father spent time with my son when I was a single mother. My husband's grandparents spent more time with him growing up then his parents did, but my spouse became closer to his dad after his grandfather passed away.
One theme that developed is that Esau did not care (value) spiritual things such as the blessing of the birthright, but Jacob did. It can be the same way with how we value the Bible and what we spend our money and time on is what we care about. We don't know exactly why, because Isaac was giving the spiritual blessings, and Rebecca seemed to push Jacob towards spiritual things.
In all my travels of meeting people, I have found it seems to be mothers that have a strong influence on their sons to pray them into the kingdom. Also, the bars seems to be filled with more men and more women attend church. A minister made a comment that on Mother's Day the church is full, but on Father's Day, the men are out fishing or watching sports.
Does the hand that rocks the cradle rule the world? I believe the hand that rocks God's throne is the one that rules. (if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14)
Jacob had to leave his mother’s apron strings when he got Esau angry, and we see he was more of the sensitive loving type man in meeting Rachel. Although, a lot of his own deceit came back on him in that Laban deceived him much the same way that he deceived his father. In the long haul, Jacob had a spiritual wrestling with God in his life and became a changed man.
The main point of the story is that Esau sold out a spiritual blessing for a bowl of soup. He was very hungry from hunting, but rather have given in to the weakness of the moment (or his flesh) at that time of temptation he chose the easy road. Same thing happened to Samson, he gave into his weakness. Whatever weakness we have in our flesh, choosing the easy road out is not the answer. Moses chose a more difficult road in life and that was to be identified with his people rather than enjoy the pleasures of Egypt for a season.
Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright. Genesis 25:34
See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son. Hebrews 12:16
The example of Jacob and Esau is a good example of exercising patience and self-control.
We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised. Hebrews 6:12
We give great honor to those who endure under suffering. For instance, you know about Job, a man of great endurance. You can see how the Lord was kind to him at the end, for the Lord is full of tenderness and mercy. James 5:11
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